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Should I get a job before I divorce or wait until after?

Which is better for me? Will the court think I'm an unfit mother if I don't have job? 

by Annette   28 Posts
Posted on 10/24/2007 3:23 PM

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Hi Annette,

The court will not likely think you are an unfit mother.  Most of the time you have to do some serious stuff to be seen as an unfit mother.

If your job before was to raise the kids and manage the home, then that is normally considered your job now.  While you may have to get a job eventually, rationally it doesn't make sense to get one now.  Unless of course it is your dream job.

However, as part of a settlement agreement, there may be things your husband is willing to agree upon (Example:  More alimony for "re-training" or going to school to get a better job.  This way he doesn't feel like he is paying the rest of his life.).  I would take this opportunity to try and figure out what you REALLY want to do, that will fit into your schedule and see if you can negotiate something that will help with that.

All of this is purely hypothetical of course, since I don't know your specific situation.  But getting a "Job" just to get a job is not necessarily the best thing to do.
by Michael Kothakota   
Posted on 1/27/2010 6:31 AM

I agree with most every answer you received.  I don't have much in common with you, yet many of the rules apply to all of us.  My attorney asked that I not work until after the financial part of the divorce is established as having a job will cut down on what you get.
by Marcella   3 Posts
Posted on 1/26/2010 10:33 PM

Vicki is so right! 
No way - don't get a job. If you get a job you're going to have to keep it even after the divorce.
My ex wife was the primary earner and I'm at home with my kids. If I had a job I would not have gotten sole custody or as much support.
by fancypants   10 Posts
Posted on 1/10/2009 11:37 PM

first you need to decide why you would be getting the job. would it make you feel good about yourself and the future. if so go for it.
by dedesue   7 Posts
Posted on 7/9/2008 11:19 PM

Get a P/T job. That way you will have some income, and show the judge you are trying.This way you have both areas covered.
by Atlantagirl   7 Posts
Posted on 4/11/2008 3:17 PM

Get a job 1st.. it adds to the decision of where the children are placed
by Nichola   23 Posts
Posted on 12/17/2007 7:36 AM

In my opinion you should not show any income yet. Start looking so you can have something in mind when the divorce is over.
by Barkley   912 Posts
Posted on 12/11/2007 10:00 PM

Do not get a job now. It definitely hurt me when I was going through my divorce. My ex was unemployed for 5 years. I was the stay at home mom. He filed for alimony from me.
by Miss-Delta   29 Posts
Posted on 12/4/2007 10:39 PM

I would say ask your lawyer but I do agree with Vicki.
by shopper   9 Posts
Posted on 12/4/2007 4:24 PM

don't get a job yet. wait until you go to court. it will change the amount of support he will have to pay you.
by Vicki   856 Posts
Posted on 11/16/2007 11:22 AM

Get a job now. You're going to have to get one eventually. So start looking now.
by Mary   179 Posts
Posted on 10/24/2007 3:25 PM

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