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5/10/2008 9:17:30 PM

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i don't think he's physically cheating but i do think he's emotionally cheating.what you think?

well my husband and i have been going through alot these past 7 months. 2 weeks ago we decided to put our differences aside and work on our marriage. during these past 7 months i had discovered that my husband has been texting this one particular female he works with 24/7 everyday like almost 800 a month which has cause our bill to go up(that's how i discovered it). well i confronted he says that '"she's just a friend"because we had just moved and he had no friends to talk to.but he also said i had nothing to worry about because she is married and getting ready to move. ok.well he cool it for awhile, now its starting back up really bad where he's coming home late,sneaking outside to talk to her while im sleep or when i leave in the morning or while he's at work. so investigated his phone and found her name and each time i check its a different crazy name and he make sure he deletes all his messages and his calls. sometimes he is so bold with it he even does it when im sitting in the room and claim its somebody else.this week he increase his text messaging plan because he went over his 500 and replace it with 1500 messaging and i found out that she's still here in florida and never moved. this is way too suspicious!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 


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Posted on 5/3/2008 9:17 PM


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Yes emotional cheating is worse.  Mine hides his emails and feelings about his ex, we have no children and waiting for economic reasons to leave..Cant wait! my first and last marriage never again, its a dying art.

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by Simran  3 Posts
Posted on 5/28/2008 11:27 PM
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Yes he is cheating. I have been going though the same thing with my soon to be ex. He would take his phone in the bathroom with him, talk in a different tone. Plus this certain co-worker would call him at all times of the day and he would just right up so I would not get it. Has he told you to keep your hands off his phone yet? If he has do not let him get away with that because, my stbx attacked me over his phone, I have been married to him for 30 years. Just be safe ok I am one of the many women out here with evidence of this kind of cheating and abuse.
by camero  90 Posts
Posted on 5/14/2008 11:44 AM
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i finally got proof last night in a text the other woman sent him saying that she loves him. im calling a lawyer today.
by aro78  13 Posts
Posted on 5/9/2008 10:58 AM
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I agree....he is definately cheating on you.  My husband did the same thing last year.  He started to hide his phone and take it everywhere with him.  He even locked it in the bathroom with him in the morning when he was showering.  He would get calls all of the time right in front of me that I never knew who they were from...until now.  It was always her.  I had two small kids....2 and 4 at that time.  He ulitmately wanted to leave me so I did not have a decision to make, but honestly if it was my decision I would hope that I would have have the courage to leave.  My motto...once a cheater...always a cheater.  When I found out about her I knew in my heart that I could never trust him again and that is no way to live.  I am MUCH happier now even though it is hard to be a single parent.  I have found someone new in my life and things are wonderful.  Be strong and start a new positive happy life for yourself and your kids....you deserve that.  Why would you want to be with someone with wants to be with someone else?  No one should live with that.  Life is too short.
by JLK  136 Posts
Posted on 5/8/2008 9:19 AM
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thank you. i agree because i have been getting this strange vibe from him lately. the question is what do i do next. the first time when i confronted him, he said that if i can't trust him then we need a divorce and that i was wrong to go through his phone calls(even though he put me in charge of seeing the bills get paid of course im going to look to see why its high). ok im not stupid that was just his way of trying to put the guilt on me. when i tried to tell him my feelings on it he cuts me off and doesn't want to talk about and try to be all sweet to me to change the subject. i don't know what to do bc we got 2 kids involved and im not from this state and im a stay at home mom with a heart condition.i really need some advice on this.
by aro78  13 Posts
Posted on 5/8/2008 8:50 AM
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Yes he is cheating.  When your spouse texts,im's or has any kind of relationship like that with the opposite sex who is not also friends with you it is concidered cheating because he is talking privately about god knows what to her.  It could be an emotional affair.
by teachnmom08  3 Posts
Posted on 5/7/2008 12:51 AM
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