PLEASE HELP SEPARATION OR MARRIED IS THE DEADLINE!!!!!!

SPAZNSKITZ,
HI ASSHOLE IS STILL DATING GIRL HE HAD AFFAIR WITH ITS BEEN 3YRS. AND HES STARTING TO BRING HER AROUND KIDS WE ARE STILL NOT DIVORCED YET,ALSO I THOUGHT PENNSYLVANIA IS A NO-FAULT DIVORCE STATE,WHICH IF THAT IS THE CASE,THEN HIS AFFAIR ETC. WILL MEAN SQUAT IN DIVORCE,CORRECT?

THANKS FOR YOUR HELP,TAKE CARE
MOOKEY

is he in an apartment of his own?

the only way I think you could prove he was there is by having your attorney, in your discovery, request he produce hos original signed lease copy, and that will show when he rented the apartment - which would be an indication as to when he left.

If he doesn't have a lease - you don't have any way of proving when he left.

 

You need to hire an attorney - because PA is a fault grounds divorce state, and you are entitled to a lot more when you can prove adultery, and that very well could be a reason for the court to award you his pension. call around and see if any attoreny in your area will work out a payment plan with you - or you could go down to the superior court and apply for legal aid.

as far as his offer - tell him to eat dirt.

 

You are still married, yes, but the fact you don't live together makes you separated. It doesn't have to be a court documented legal separation to be considered one.

 

 

IF YOU R NOT LEGALLY SEPARATED AND NO DIVORCE PAPERS ARE EVEN STARTED YET ARE U CONSIDERED MARRIED OR NOT? HOW CAN THIS AFFECT BENG ABLE TO GET 1/2 OF PENSION AND 457 PLAN IF HES TRYING TO SAY WE WERE MARRIED APRIL22 1995 AND LEGALLY SEPARATED MARCH 7TH 2005? IS HE TRYING TO GET THE MARRIAGE UNDER 10YRS SO I CAN NOT TOUCH HIS MONEY?IS IT HIS WORD AGAINST MINE AND WHAT KIND OF ACTUAL PROOF COULD HE HAVE?I CANNOT PROVE IT,BUT HE WAS HERE WAY INTO MAY AND SLEPT HERE A FEW TIMES AND CAME AND WENT AS HE PLEASED FOR THE FIRST YR. AND 1/2.AND HOW COULD I PROVE IT AND MAKE SURE I GET 1/2 OF EVERYTHING I AM ENTITLED TO?

AND WHEN HIS PENSION KICKS IN 700.00 A MONTH AND TO PAY HIM 170.00 A MONTH TO GET A SUPPLEMENTAL INSURANCE POLICY OFF HIS INSURANCE. PLEASE HELP ME THERE IS MORE TO MY DILEMMA,BUT I THINK I HAVE OVER ASKED YOU FOR HELP. THEY SAY WHAT GOES AROUND COMES A ROUND AND FOR DOING NICE THINGS TO HELP PEOPLE WILL REWARD YOU TWICE AS MUCH. THANK YOU SO MUCH J AM VERY WORRIED BENG HANDI-CAPPED AND NOT BENG ABLE TO WORK I AM GONNA HAVE A VERY HARD TIME LIVING THE REST OF MY LIFE!!!!!!

HI, THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR YOUR QUICK RESPONSE!! I LIVE IN PITTSBURGH,PENNSYLVANIA. NO WE DID NOT FILE ANY THING IN COURT,EXCEPT A MONTH AGO I TOOK HIM FOR CHILD SUPPORT AND ALIMONY BECAUSE WE HAD A VERBAL AGREEMENT TO SAVE SOME MONEY, I AM HANDICAPPED WITH M.S. AND NOT ABLE TO WRK, I GET DISSABILITY FOR MYSELF AND MY CHILDREN AGES 10/12. YES, HE DID HAVE AN AFFAIR WHICH I HAVE PHONE RECORD PROOF. YES HE WAS DATING HER DURING AND AFTER HE LEFT AND ALSO BROUGHT HIS "FRIEND" AROUND MY CHILDREN THAT UPSET THEM VERY MUCH AND ASKED HIM BY KIDS NOT TO BRING HER AROUND THEM AND HE TOLD THEM TO DEAL WITH IT,LIFE GOES ON. THEY KNOW THE REASON HE LEFT IS HER. MY7 SON WAS IN THE GIFTED PROGRAM,AMD THE HAPPIES CHIKED YOU EVER MET,SINCE HIS FATHER LEFT,HE IS FULL OF SO MUCH HATE AND MEANESS,DEPRESION,ETC. HE ALSO QUIT THE GIFTED PROGRAM. HE IS ALWAYS STRESSED OUT AND UNHAppy,because he feels he has to STEP IN AND BE MAN OF HOUSE AND HAS TO MUCH RESPONSIBILIY ON HIS SHOULDERS. MY DAUGHTER DOESN'T SHOW IT AS MUCH,SHE HULD EVERYTHING IN. WE NEVER FILED FOR A LEGAL SEPARATION,DO THEY CONSIDERATE IT LEGAL WHEN YOU JUST LIVE APART? HIS ATTORNEY SENT ME A LETTER STATING A OFFER FROM MY HUSBAND STATING HE WANTED TO GIVE ME THE HOUSE(WHICH WE REFINANCED AND PAID OFF 30,000.00 WORTH OF DEBT ON TOP OF OUR MORTGAGE WHICH ONLY HAD 7 YRS, TO PAY OFFAND NOW WE R BACK UP TO MORE THAN WE PAID FOR HOUSE. HE ALSO STATED WE WERE MARRIED ON APRIL22,2005 AND SEPARATED ON MARCH 7TH. IS HE ST6ATING THIS TO KEEP IT UNDER 10 TRS. SO I CANNOT TOUCH HIS PENSION AND HE HAS NO PROOF OF WHEN HE LEFT.AND NEITHER DO I,BUT I KNOW HE WAS STILL LIVING HERE WAY INTO MAY,THEN STAYED HERE OVER NITE A COUPLE TIMES And came and went FOR THE WHOLE FIRST AND AT LEAST HALF OF SECOND YR. FOR THE KIDS SAKE,SO IS THAT HIS WORD AGAiNST MINE? AND WHAT KIND OF PROOF WOULD HE POSSIBLE HAVE TO EVEN PROVE WHEN HE LEFT?HE IS A COP AND LIES ABOUT EVERTHING,ALSO IN HIS SO CALLED PROPOSAL,HE WANTS TO PAY ME 850.00 A MONTH AND WHEN HIS

it is the date you are actually separated and living apart, so more than likely not.

What state are you in? Was he unfaithful at all? Has he been with anyone since you separated? Did you two file for a legal separation or has nothing been filed in court yet at all?

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