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I think JLK is right. They are young. Opt for less time away from the other parent. It will be hard for them at first but it will be better than being gone so long. Things are rough enough on the kids. Make it as easy as you can for them.

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I was just recently divorced and I have two sons....one 4 1/2 and one 2 1/2.  As much as it killed me to be away from my sons I knew that they needed their father too.  We did research and found out at this age that the children should not go longer than 2 days without seeing the other parent.  We are currently doing a schedule where we trade the kids off every day or every other day....and it is working.  It is working for us and for the kids.  It seems to me according to what I have researched that one week without the other parent is too long.  Why not try to do a few days with one parent and a few days with the other?  Once the kids get older you will be able to go for longer periods of time.  At first it seemed really chaotic to me to go back and forth all of the time, but it has worked and honestly it gives both of us time to recoup so we can focus on being good parents when we have the boys.  Good luck....let me know if you have further questions!!

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