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Husband keeps flip-flopping

My husband moved out about 2 mos ago, we were going to take 6 mos apart & date to see if we could work thru our problems, etc.  He's a recovering alcoholic, and met a woman 16 yrs younger & began an emotional affair with her in Nov 07 and it's since escalated to a full blown sexual affair even though she's not clean for a year.  So, he tells me that yes, he wants the divorce, and I accept his decision (with much heartbreak), but then he says, well, maybe there's a chance for us, when we have these candid talks, I can see getting back together.  He's done this to me several times... what's up?  Is he just trying to string me along?  Hurt me?  I said it seems you really have not made up your mind, and he says - no, let's divorce, but then it happens again (usually when I show strength)... I want to try again more than anything, but this is hurting me so much - and it's making me feel manipulated.  I've been very limited in my contact with him so that he can think w/out me around, and miss me - but he's already got a girlfriend.   


by 6108   42 Posts
Posted on 4/24/2008 4:31 PM

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there is nothing worse than a man who can't make up his mind who he wants to be with.and u never feel the same about them once they betray u. sometimes its easier to just move on because the other woman rarely gives up. why keep suffering and hurting when its easier to just leave someone who cheats on u.
by pattyk   20 Posts
Posted on 5/15/2009 6:38 AM
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He wants to manipulate you, don't fall for it. Full steam ahead and don't look back. Good luck!
by gomundo2   74 Posts
Posted on 5/8/2008 4:29 PM
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well, I filed for divorce and asked to meet with him to discuss it and said I need to do this to move on for myself.  you've made your choice, now let's just move on to this next logical step - I mean either we are working on saving our marriage, or we are not and since I wanted to, and he didn't, and got a girlfriend along the way... there's my answer, right?  Well, he calls me up to say I just want to make sure that you know I'm not happy about our marriage ending, I want to make sure you know how sad I am (while he's sleeping with another woman!)... I mean, how distraught can you really be if you are in another relationship?!  And, why does he care what I think or feel about any of it anymore?!  And, does he really expect me to believe he's heartbroken when this is what he's done?  I said, well - you got what you wanted, and he's like no... I wanted you, but I'm too afraid to try again with you.  It makes absolutely NO SENSE to me at all.  And then he says, well, I hope I haven't kept you from moving on... like stringing me along for 5 months making me think there's a chance when there never was one.  Then, there's a bunch of financial stuff he did that makes it all even worse, but wants to make sure I know how sad he is... what does this guy want from me?
by 6108   42 Posts
Posted on 5/8/2008 3:53 PM
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im going through something similiar and im just as confused as you are on what to do. i don't know if my husband is having a sexual affair bc our sex is steady and hes at home most of the time. but i think he's having an emotional affair and i need proof to prove but its hard because they text each other all day long and he erases his messages from his phone. you might have to consider what you want out of this relationship and what you deserve. don't wait on him to make it for you.
by aro78   12 Posts
Posted on 5/8/2008 9:24 AM
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