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My husband is in the National Guard and is currently training in another state. He will be home for a few weeks this summer (on leave) and then will be sent to the middle east. Shortly after he left for training he admitted to lying and cheating on me. I have taken him back multiple times and felt hurt by him often, but this was the ultimate blow. We will be filing for divorce shortly and he will be staying somewhere else during his leave time. After all the years of self sacrifice- on my part- in trying to keep us a family unit, I no longer feel I can even 'act' like a happy family for even a few weeks. Having him around constantly during his leave time would cause me unbearable depression and suffering. I can barely function now, with him not even here! I do not look forward to the pain this will cause our children and am wondering when do you think would be the best time to tell them? They are constantly looking forward to the time that daddy is home, and I feel to tell them upon his arrival would be tramatic for them (they are sooo looking forward to daddy being home). He is planning on taking them camping as soon as he returns and I just want them to have some time with their dad without the divorce hanging over their heads. I have to admit I prefer to tell them shortly before he leaves for the middle east, or even afterward. They will have the whole time he is gone to get used to him not being here. ( I just hope "work" is a good enough excuse for him not sleeping here, in the meantime). What do you think?
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