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I know this will seem like a slam dunk answer to most, but it isn’t to me. I don’t know if I should get a divorce. My husband and I have been together for three years and we have two beautiful kids, but are marriage hasn’t been easy. I knew that when I married my husband that I was marrying someone with severe bipolar disorder, along with some other mental problems. I always told my husband that as long as he always tried to help himself that I would stay in the marriage, and I honored that promise. I honored that promise through all his manic and depressive cycles that ended in him abusing me and himself. Through all his cycles he said that he would never actually hit me, well that changed seven months ago. He hit me, and I didn’t leave when I should have. Now, when he does have cycles they are so extreme that my daughters get scared every time he remotely gets angry. After seven months of me fighting depression, building an emotional wall to protect myself, losing love and trust for my husband and finally finding myself again - I finally asked for divorce My husband asked me for one more chance and it is hard because I know he is ill. It is hard because I have two little daddy’s girls who love their father more than anyone. It is hard because I know he loves me at the very most he is capable of, and I am afraid of what he would do to himself if we did get a divorce. I don’t trust him anymore. I have tried to get that trust and love back, and I can’t get it back. I have asked for us to go to counseling together – he refuses. He also refuses to get help for himself. He says he doesn’t need to go to a counselor or doctor because has a new found love for his family. This new found love has led to extreme paranoia to where he keeps me from going out anywhere without him, and he has even called my male friends in the middle of the night demanding they never speak to me anymore. The absolute hardest part is that the manic/depressive cycles don’t last long, and it is the in-between times where he is the man of my dreams. At sometimes he is everything I have ever wanted and more. I have no family near by, and I just moved to a new town with very few friends. I need support, help and advice.
I know this will seem like a slam dunk answer to most, but it isn’t to me. I don’t know if I should get a divorce.
My husband and I have been together for three years and we have two beautiful kids, but are marriage hasn’t been easy. I knew that when I married my husband that I was marrying someone with severe bipolar disorder, along with some other mental problems. I always told my husband that as long as he always tried to help himself that I would stay in the marriage, and I honored that promise. I honored that promise through all his manic and depressive cycles that ended in him abusing me and himself. Through all his cycles he said that he would never actually hit me, well that changed seven months ago.
He hit me, and I didn’t leave when I should have. Now, when he does have cycles they are so extreme that my daughters get scared every time he remotely gets angry. After seven months of me fighting depression, building an emotional wall to protect myself, losing love and trust for my husband and finally finding myself again - I finally asked for divorce
My husband asked me for one more chance and it is hard because I know he is ill. It is hard because I have two little daddy’s girls who love their father more than anyone. It is hard because I know he loves me at the very most he is capable of, and I am afraid of what he would do to himself if we did get a divorce.
I don’t trust him anymore. I have tried to get that trust and love back, and I can’t get it back. I have asked for us to go to counseling together – he refuses. He also refuses to get help for himself. He says he doesn’t need to go to a counselor or doctor because has a new found love for his family. This new found love has led to extreme paranoia to where he keeps me from going out anywhere without him, and he has even called my male friends in the middle of the night demanding they never speak to me anymore.
The absolute hardest part is that the manic/depressive cycles don’t last long, and it is the in-between times where he is the man of my dreams. At sometimes he is everything I have ever wanted and more.
I have no family near by, and I just moved to a new town with very few friends. I need support, help and advice.
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