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Do I stay out of it?

My boyfriend does not like conflict and has let his soon to be ex manipulate and control him for the entire 6-7 year seperation.
I cannot stand to see what she does and have pushed him to finally do something about it.  I have helped to pay financially for this and emotionally also, as she has attempted to run my whole family thru the ringer.
He does not like to talk about it much but I NEED TO TALK! 


by mtnvly   774 Posts   read more from user >>
Posted on 3/11/2008 9:42 PM
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I am a hands on fix it type person. I am learning to let him handle things. Check out my journal entries...
Lifes lessons are learning...how to cope and deal with what comes your way.
I am stepping back, letting it go and seeing how he handles it. I have told him that he can choose to deal with things however he wants. That I am stepping out of the situation. BUT when her crap flows into my personal life with my kids or my business that I am stepping up to the plate and will not tolerate it. I told him that I cannot make him do things ..nor can I do them for him. But if he chooses to let it come between us then he is not the man for me. I am now just waiting to see what happens...
Yes I do love him. I have been in his shoes with others controlling my life and have had to learn to deal with it. He control will not be a part of it. It is one thing if a judge says so. I can deal with that. But she is just too much.
by mtnvly   774 Posts
Posted on 5/7/2008 7:45 PM
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I agree with it must be me.  I am in the same situation as you and believe me it does not get any better.  I have been in this situation for 3 years and now she is taking us to court for custody (my bf has custody) and child support.  She doesn't really want teh kids it is just another way for her to torture us. I have also paid dearly emotionally.  I am now asking myself that although I love him is this really worth it?
by teachnmom08   3 Posts
Posted on 5/7/2008 12:42 AM
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I agree with it must be me.  I am in the same situation as you and believe me it does not get any better.  I have been in this situation for 3 years and now she is taking us to court for custody (my bf has custody) and child support.  She doesn't really want teh kids it is just another way for her to torture us. I have also paid dearly emotionally.  I am now asking myself that although I love him is this really worth it?
by teachnmom08   3 Posts
Posted on 5/7/2008 12:42 AM
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Not taken as rude. Not at all. I have thought so at times myself.
by mtnvly   774 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2008 7:19 PM
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I'm not trying to be rude here, honestly, but maybe you should just find a new boyfriend. I would stay out of how they interact with each other. It may make you crazy but it's his choice to allow it to be so.
by itmustbeme   422 Posts
Posted on 3/12/2008 10:27 AM
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