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IM ONLY 19 AND I NEED AN ANSWER

IM ONLY 19 AND I NEED AN ANSWER, I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 1 1/2 YEARS AND WE HAVE A 8 MONTH OLD BABY! BEFORE ME AND MY HUB GOT MARRIED HE LET ME KNOW HE DIDNT WANT TO DO IT BUT I WAS SO SURE I DID! NOW I AM GROWING STRONG FEELINGS FOR ANOTHER MAN AND MY FEELING TOWARDS MY HUB ARE ALREADY TOO FAR GONE WITH OUR OWN PROBLEMS! I DONT WANT MY CHILD TO BE IN A DISFUNCTIONAL ENVIROMENT AND I WANT TO BE HAPPY. IM WILLING TOGET A DIVORCE BUT MY HUB IS MAKING IT SO HARD TO DO IT LIKE SAYING "BUT I LOVE YOU NOW PLEASE WE HAVE A SON ARENT YOU HAPPY" IREALLY DONT WANT TO TELL HIM THAT I AM CONSIDERING DATING SOMEONE ELSE BUT THE TEMPTATIO IS GETTING OUT OF CONTROL! WHAT SHOULD I DO?

by BROKENHEARTED1 2 Posts
Posted on 2/19/2008 3:41 PM

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I would not complicate things by jumping into another relationship. It is always easier to think the grass is greener on the other side. And...it may be. But for your child's sake please resolve your situation completely before complicating it with someone else. Clearly you are looking outside of yourself for love. Maybe take some time to get to know yourself. Only then can you determine if your marriage is really working or not. A counselor can help you do this. If it turns out your relationship is really not saveable, then you can leave, heal, and eventually find a stable relationship. If you just jump into the next one, you will likely find yourself in the same boat in a few years down the road. Not fun to repeat the same mistakes. Good luck!

by DK-Simoneau 167 Posts
Posted on 2/21/2008 1:46 PM

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I also married young,17. Give yourself a chance. At 19 you are so young. If you decide to divorce, give your self to develope your own identity and make your own way. Don't jump into another relationship right away. Perhaps a seperation and counceling could help. My prayers are with you.

by dumpedafter30years 66 Posts
Posted on 2/20/2008 8:52 AM

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I agree you married too young.Most people your age don't know what they want in life at that age.But you now have a child to think about.You need to ask yourself some serious questions.Why did you want to get married so bad? Do you want out of the marriage just because you're attracked to someone else?If you leave your husband because of this other person,who's to say in a year or so,you won't "fall out of love" with them as well?You say you don't want your child to have a disfunctional enviroment,but thats exactly what will happen if you jump from relationship to relationship.

by dazedNconfused 5 Posts
Posted on 2/19/2008 9:03 PM

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You did get married way too young, in my opinion. You do not need to jump into another relationship. If you do not love your husband you need to seek counseling to try to make it work or seek advice from an attorney. You need time to find who you are without a man in your life. I know this sounds harsh but enjoy your 20's, the man you might be attracted to at age 19 will probably not be the same type of man you will be attracted to when you are 30. You will change a lot also. Take this time to be with your child and work on your career and life.

by Barkley 912 Posts
Posted on 2/19/2008 8:34 PM

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