Your Kids DO Notice
Your kids do notice how you interact with your ex. I know this because my daughter told me the other day that she was so glad her dad and I got along. I said yeah, it was nice that we do....but, we'd probably never be friends. She looked at me like I had lost my mind and said, "You talk to one another like friends do." I didn't even think about that. We had just spent about 30 minutes at her dad's house waiting for her brother to get home from school. My ex was home. We did talk. I didn't realize my daughter saw it as talk between friends.
Yes, I know that many here can't have that kind of relationship with their ex. Because of abuse, control or you just plain divorced a horse's ass, it will never happen. But, your interactions don't always have to be contentious. In fact, in those cases, the less contact you have, the better. However, sometimes, you do have to exchanges words of some sort- whether it's a text message, phone call or email. Just know that whatever it is, your kids are paying close attention. I don't have any great advice for how to make it better. I just know that kids are worse than dogs when it comes to hearing certain tones.....especially when they come from a broken home.