I am too stupid to fix a roof 

Sweetie pie... take it easy on yourself.  She wants the house, then she gets to deal with the problems.   Like the moderator says its not that big of a deal.  And for goodness sake, do not let her make it your fault  And believe me, she will try!!!!

Hang in there, we are with you.

james, you are strong ok.. snap out of it baby.. come on sweetie.. you can show her that you can do this and not let her get  to you,. i know how you feel but you have to prevail and win ok..*hugs)

Thanks everyone for the great comments.  Just having a bad day, I am 2 days away from the anniversary of getting told to get gone and not dealing with it well.  I will be back to my old self soon I hope.

Someone very recently said to me that my ex would be able to continue to push my buttons for a long time....if I let him....I made the comment that the only way he could continue to push my buttons was through my kids...welll if that is the only way he can do it, that is the way he will use...as long as I let him...I thought about that conversation long and hard....She can't push your buttons unless you allow her to do it...I know, easier said than done as far as getting to that point...Very hard...I still struggle with it...He can push my buttons still and he may always be able to but I am getting better at hiding the reaction to it and not letting him know it...Sorry this isn't really where you were going with your blog but for some reason I just felt the need to say it to you...Take Spaz's advice, she gives great advice. Hang in there...

it isn't that big of a problem....

you call the number on the letter you got - say "oops, sorry, going through a divorce and who was responsible for what was up inthe air and this fell through the cracks, what is it exactly you need done, I don't live at the house right now but I will be more than happy to inform my stbx on what she needs to do, or you can yourself, here is her contact information"

if they tell you, send her a certified letter telling her what she needs to do - if they say they will contact her, you document who you spoke to and what was said - and get on with your life.

You should be in the clear.  You weren't even there in the house!  That is something that she should have done by her, right?  Or are you saying that while you two were still together living there it should have been re-inspected??

That's not your issue any more, as "cherbear" said "she knows what buttons to press" you are better than that, and if that's not good enough "Dactyl" is going to smack you.  Kapish?

Chear and dacyl, thank, but she has found one more way to screw things up.  I got kicked to the curb, but she keeps moving the the curb.

AM I gonna have to fly up your way and smack you?  Quit letting her get to you!  She's not your problem anymore.  The only reason you should have any contact with her now is because of those girls.  She wanted that house- it's hers to deal with now.

JAMES,you are not stupid at all. dont put yourself down for something she was supposed to do. its not your fault at all. she causes you all your problems. dont let her hurt you anymore.. she knows just what buttons to push to make you feel bad about yourself..you are a great dad and a wonderful person too. dont think anyother way ok... HUGS TO YA..

cherbear