WHY??? 

Christa,
I was in that same place 26 years ago.My wife left me and our children.The children were 3 & 1. I was so crushed and devastated.My wife and I had achieved every goal we had planned, except for a third child.She walked out with no explanation and never looked back.Don't get me wrong started all the legal battles that were ahead and three and one half years I was the sole custodial parent of our children.
Oh yeah,she partied like crazy and had many different men.All of this ripped my heart and soul apart,we had been married 10 years when she left.I had all the negative emotions and I cried so damn much.You know what, I loved our children so much.She will never tell me but I think she left because she couldn't parent and I think she knew that I was better at it.I just don't know why she left me?
Our children are now young adults my daughter is 28 yrs.old and pursuing her Masters in Nursing and my son is 25yrs old,soon to be 26,in college in Florida.
Just recently they both told me separately,"Dad I don't see how Mom and you were ever married! So say Why? They both responded,"Mom and you are soooo different!
Its been so long but I still wish she would talk to me one time.
Now all these years later to be going through a divorce again,it is again more painful to me than it for her.She has someone already!

It sucks and we all go through the wondering but it will get better. You have to try and sty busy and relize that if he cant see how special you are than he does not deserve you. It will be hard but you will get through it and its ok to cry. He will relize what he is doing one day and regret it and by that time it will be to late. Hang in there your friend ZW

awwww hun...I guess thats the 1.000 000 000 question, I dont really know why, some times when I found information or anything new about the MOTHER F''''R and his new ¨princess¨I wonder why??? but, to be honest, some times is better not knowing... dont give a chance to that burn and wonder in ur heart... go out.. IT SUUUCKS because every where there really happy and smileyyyy couples uuuuuuuuuggggggggggg and it seems like the world goes slow around u... but in small amounts... pain,,, goes away...

Put the makeup on, do your hair.  You are worth the effort.  It will help you feel better.

I wish I knew who i was, he was my high school sweetheart and we got married 3 days after my 18th bday this is all I know and have ever known....I do think you are right I need to get up and put on makeup and at least act like I feel worth something..thank you!

As the one who left, I can say that I went through all the emotions you are going through now- it just happened while I was still living with him.  The sad thing was- he didn't see it until it was way to late to really save us. 

It's hard to really say if he is being selfish or if he's just gone through the pain you are going through now.  It does appear that the one who moves on first never went through it, but that's so not true.  At least, it's not true in my case.

As Jamesalone said, peace will come.  The pain will get less.  However, don't sit home alone feeling sad!  You may not be ready to date, but you're ready to do things.  Take a class.  Many cities offer classes through their parks dept.  Go to an event.  Join a choir, if you sing.  Think about the things you liked to do before your were married.  It may be time to start thinking about doing those things again.  Think about the things you've always wanted to do!  If you can afford it, join a gym and exercise. 

Above all, try to do at least one nice thing for yourself every single day.  Wear perfume--get a new scent, as I did, if the old one reminds you of him.  Use special skin care products.  Do your nails or get a manicure or pedicure.  Fix your hair a new way.  Go to a park or somewhere you like.  Take care of you.  Moving on is hard, but when you begin to remember who you are and what you like and what you need, it begins to get easier.

Peace will come.  You are going through the greatest stress known to anyone.  Keep posting it really does help.  The other ones think they are getting off easy, but it will come back to bite the in the privates.  Just keep breathing you will be ok, it just takes time. Lots and lots of tme.

I dont want to feel sorry for myself I just want peace or to know it will come at some point...

I hate that it is what I think about it every min of every hour of everyday!

Give yourself time....lots of time. Concentrate on yourself, the kids and continue living.
 
Why is he ok? It is called selfishness. He may just need time.

Take care of yourself.

Abrazos.

It's easy for him to move on with his life because right now, he is being selfish.  He doesn't have the responsibilities that you have right now. 

It does get better.  I can't pinpoint a time frame for you, but look back on your blogs and postings a year from now.  Trust me, you will be in a much better place regardless of where you end up.

I wouldn't recommend dating for a LONG time.  You need to focus on yourself right now.  Try not to worry about how he is or what he's doing. Easier said than done, I know. 

My thoughts are with you. I know how it feels to be lonely. I know what its like to feel like your not loved. I hope for the best for you and your kids, and that you will be happy again on day. ((HUGS))

its not even that I dont want him to be happy because I do I just wish he felt a little sad that our marriage has fallen apart!

Its so hard to see that this can get better I feel like a heel for giving him the best years of my life only to have him leave and move on so fast!

Why, that is a very good question, the ones that have moved on first have an edge, lets just hope that one day the reality of being a selfish jerk will hit them hard right between the eyes and very hard.

It does get better.  I used to sit home and cry and wonder why he could be so happy while I'm so miserable.  But--after awhile, I realized he wasn't that happy and I wasn't so miserable.  Remember the saying , "the more things change the more they stay the same."....that is where he is at because he hasn't changed..he just changed women. I, on the other hand, have changed...for the better.