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Hi all, and thank you for your thoughts.  I am into my 9th month since my wife left.  You know the drill, suicidal, rage, anger, complete forgiveness, and a total emotional wreck.  Also the rollercoaster of feelings changing all the time.  Don't forget the neglect of duties around the home and the strong urge to isolate myself. 

I want to inform you, especially those who are just entering this journey, that it does get easier with the passage of time.  The difference back in January and today, is that today I have fiinally accepted the fact that my wife will not be returning as my wife.  It's an amazing discovery that I can now except.  The marriage was 33 years and I love her more than ever today, so I presume that the next step will be to loose those feelings.  If you recall, the affair was discovered by accident and came as a complete shock to my huge family, including myself.

So my friends, you have been a life-line for me, and responded to my queries with your precious time.  Your efforts have paid off, and I see and feel the results everyday.  If I could, I would buy a round of drinks for all of you!  It is an outstanding discovery to find this site, and I would recomend it to anyone who has started the journey of divorce.  Your collective wisdom can minimize the inventory of problems that we have.  Thanks again.     Kev