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Where were you when the world stopped turning 

Eight years ago the United States was attacked by we are still not sure.  Thanks to Alan Jackson for the great tune.  One year ago I was told to get gone, "I am done"  my question is does anyone remember what they were doing the day the world stopped turning?  All of this we used to be an us now we are Plaintfiff/Respondent stuff.  A year ago, I woke up a happily married man.  Eight short years ago I just went to work a happily worker bee doing a job. 

 

We were doing our jobs when someone said a plane crashed into the world trade center.  I live in Colorado, I figured it was just another building and how stupid of a pilot be to crash into a stationary building.

 

I came home from work a year ago, to a cold shoulder and the words, I went to see a lawyer today! I am done.  That was it no further commucation beyond I am out of her.

 

We finished our work and were watching the news on the tv's when the 2nd plane hit the other tower.  Me and the guy I was with both commented we are at war with someone.

 

She had me served, the next day, one day later but 7 years later (because she messed up the paperwork).  It's not terrorism but it is just as scary.  The really sad part is I don't whether to say happy birthday, gee this is the date you chose to kick me to the curb, or do you remember where you where on 09/11/01?

by Jamesalone  2778 Posts 

Posted on 9/11/2009 12:33 AM
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September 11th I was at work doing pacemaker checks and my friend in the next office said come listen to this stupid radio announcer he is not funny. I walked in and we both realized together that it was the truth, I thought we were at war. My first thought went to my son he goes to NY on business thank God he was able to call me and tell me he was ok and was with his family.
My divorce will be final this month so I vote the month stays on the calendar. Although the world stopped for me on September 11th 8 years ago. This month will stand as freedom from abuse of 38 years. I can't compare the two hundreds of lives were lost in an act of terrorism mine was saved from abuse. 

by sjg   1772 Posts
Posted on 9/19/2009 9:51 PM
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September 2001 shook me like nothing else ever had....I thought we were going to be fighting on our own soil...I figured I was going to be deployed away from my children...I was angry that someone could do that to innocent people...I was glued to the tv...I could not take my eyes off those images...I remember the video showing people jumping from those burning towers and I cried, I cried and I fell to my knees and started praying...The hair stood up on my arms...In a matter of days, friends of mine deployed...I felt guilty because they deployed and I didn't...I felt relief that I would not have to leave my children, at least not this time...A year ago, my ex shook my world yet again but you know what, in the big scheme of things, I think 8 years ago made a bigger impact on me and I didn't know those people that were killed, but they were my fellow Americans...They had done nothing wrong...My ex, is just that, my ex...It was a rough year for me but I see instances all the time where I know that I am starting to enjoy life more...I am living a better life now.
by militaryp   2952 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 7:04 PM
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I walked into work and everyone was around the TV.  We all stood there and watched while the second plane hit.  We were in shock.  We all hugged and cried.  I was working at a catholic school at the time.  Everyone met in the cafeteria for a prayer vigil.  That's one thing I liked about working in a private school, even though I'm sure they were praying in public school that day as well.  My oldest was home sick that day.  She called me and asked me what all this meant.  I told her I didn't have a clue but it was scary.  She was scared cuz her Daddy was in the military.  I told her to turn off the TV.  I found out later she didn't.  What a life lesson at age 12, huh?

September of last year was when my stbx started the physical affair.  The emotional part started in July.  I wonder if that's why I've regressed some this past week.  This is when all the tension and eggshell walking.  It was a horrible time.  With hindsight I knew something was wrong.  But how do you anticipate the person you love more than anything in this world, faults and all, to betray you?  You don't.

We could take September off the calendar.  But then there would be birthdays, anniversaries, divorce dates, etc. that would be reminders.  We should look at it as a gift.  We found out alot about our country and ourselves in September.  Mine came later, but you know what I mean.  I am hoping, in time, that I am able to look on this experience and be thankful.  Like I said, in time.  God Bless everyone on here and God Bless the USA.
by flutterby   829 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 10:53 AM
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I was a senior in high school. I had heard something about the attacks from one of my teachers, but didn't really understand what was going on as details were still pretty vague. I was in my 2nd period US Gov't class when my mom came and took my brother and I out of school. She was crying and we went home and turned on the TV and I was horrified to see the video of the planes crashing into the towers. It was when I realized we were all vulnerable.

September is also the month my ex and I got together. It's also the month we separated. September 11, 2007 is when I found out he was cheating on me. Sept 14 is when I went to the court house to file a restraining order because he was threatening me and threatening to come take the kids away. Sept 27 is when I had to face him in court about the protective order. Go figure. September is a hard month for me too. Prayers to all today.
by marybecca2   807 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 10:50 AM
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Yeah we can X out this month all together.  September is the anniversary month too. It makes me throw up!! I do remember being out in the outdoors duck hunting when all the 9/11 took place. Then I came home flipped on the TV and was shocked. Im proud of every soldiers and veteran that has backed this country up so we here in the US can enjoy things like the outdoors. If it wasnt for them we would live in fear our whole life. Thank you for what you do. We all love you and respect you!!
by Spinner   83 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 10:48 AM
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I was working for my now ex mother in law.Had called a lender for some reason and was told about it. Checked on line to see what was going on..and was absolutely appalled.
I will never forget the feeling of despair and horror that I felt.
My heart goes out to those who  lost loved ones then!
by mtnvly   3539 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 10:41 AM
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Seeing as September is my stbx's bday and the month we met a couple of years ago, I would love to omit September, maybe if that month were not in existence 38 yrs ago my stbx wouldn't have been born, that would be great.

8 yrs ago I was in CA.  Woke up a flipped on the news watching live after the first plane hit.   I didn't know what was going on so I didn't move then the 2nd plane hit and I was devastated.  I watched in horror not knowing if there would be more attacks (which there were) and felt helpless because I couldn't do a thing to help those 3,000 miles away that morning. 

I felt we ALL (races, ages, etc.) stood as one, proud Americans.  Sort of a shame that it took such a tragic event for all to stand together though.  And wish our unity would have stood longer.
by lifeinpurgatory   1830 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 10:37 AM
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Like the number 13 in every hotel and building lol!
by carossi   141 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 1:42 AM
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Does any anyone think maybe we petition Congress to just make this month go away?
by Jamesalone   2778 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 1:32 AM
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I feel ya!!!!
by carossi   141 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 1:16 AM
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Carossi, see September is a month that we don't need on the caledar anymore.
by Jamesalone   2778 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 1:14 AM
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wow, a year ago, my stbx grab me form the arm and bruise me for the first time... my mom was visiting us because of the new baby (my first  baby was born aug, 28, 08) And 8 years ago...I was in high school... I remember to hear the alarms and every one went to the cafeteria ...the tv was showing CNN and there was the first plane, I remember my exchange friends, all form the States, crying and praying... and then...the second plane.... I felt sick... that was one of the first times in my life I realized that I wasnt the center of the Universe, and the spice girls or the backstreet boys  where noooot the most important thing in life... and september 11 2004, one of my friends from high scholl was killed in afganistan. ... september is a hard month for me... but all thoose experiences made me soo much stronger!!! RIP to all thoose souls....
by carossi   141 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 1:06 AM
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Milly thanks, It is a day that will never forget, unlike the date we were married.  Funny that.  September a month they could take off the calendar and no one would object.
by Jamesalone   2778 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 1:01 AM
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September makes me ask the same question...Last September I found out my husband was "in love" with someone else and was going to divorce me....8 years ago, I was home and my MIL called and asked if I had on the news...We sat there on the phone together and watched the 2nd plane hit the towers. I remember the hair standing up on my arms. I had just came back into the military earlier that year...I knew...I knew we were at war...I wondered what else was going to happen...My kids were in elementary school and I had this overwhelming urge to go get them just so I could hold them close...Just so I could be 100% sure they were ok...but I sat frozen in front of the tv with my MIL on the phone with me and continued to watch events unfold...9/11 was a day our country stood together as one. I was proud of her that day...I was proud of the way people reached out to other people...I remember a feeling of such disbelief...That feeling came again when my ex told me he was in love with someone else...It knocked me on my ass figuratively...To me, September represents a time in my life that I found out what kind of strength I have...whether it be a country at war or just war in my home...I remember thinking at the time my ex said what he did, I would rather be dodging bullets than to hear this...I would rather be anywhere than to hear this...Instead of looking at September as a month of bad news, I choose to look at it as a time of strength...James, have a virtual drink on me...
by militaryp   2952 Posts
Posted on 9/11/2009 12:51 AM
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