A heavy heart 

Ma'am,
Don't jump to any conclusions,please.There can be a million reasons for this feeling.I sincerely hope you are wrong.
Milli,I  too am very hopeful for a successful long term relationship.My first wife walked away after 10 years of marriage leaving me our children and come to find out about the affairs she was having.Second relationship 2 years in my woman went and had an affair with my best friend.Six months later she returned to me but the relationship was done at that point for me.In '97 met a fantastic woman and allowed myself to fall madly in love with her and her children.Our wedding everything changed immediately.
Now filing for the third time in our 9 years marriage.She promised she would change after each previous attempt.She sure did,worse! I suffered a heart attack last May and our third psychologist has told me how mentally ill she is and in order for me to live I must get out now.Three times,three different psychologist same exact answer,She must go.
I ache because I am what is described as a pleaser and nurturer.I feel hollow being burned each time.I pour so much into my relationship and then get taken advantage of.
Hang in there ma'am,I ask myself the same thing.Are there any decent women out there? I believe there are and I desire to find one.God know my heart,my desires and my wants I must trust in Him to help me in my search.Be strong,ma'am,we care.
Semper Fi,
                     Byron

You were so entertwined with his family and him yours.  He knew you came out of a marriage because of infidelity.  It seems weird that he'd have you so close w/his mom and do this. 
Your relationship with him seemed a bit fast paced, but nevertheless you seemed very happy with him so I kept my nose out and was just glad that you were happy.  Are you sure maybe it's not a misunderstanding?  If it's with an ex of his then he had no business persuing you as his plate wasn't wiped clean.

If it is true, don't give up completely on your love life.  Just take it slower next time.  No meeting of kids, parents, etc. until way down the road when you feel that you both are in love.

Either way, I'm sorry you're going through this right after going through it before.  Maybe take time for yourself for a while and as you already know by the many comments, we're here for ya.  ((hugs))

MIl
Dang I wish I could tell you how many times I found my self feeling the same way about my self. I have to say this it's not you  at all like so many of us that try to be faithful and it seems like wasted effort. it's Not. But when its all said and done you relize that it's them  and not doing what seems to be one of the basics of a relationship. It's them and missy you are a good person. If you feel like this it could be just a feeling and asking does not hurt any one.  either way even if I don't know you that well I wish you enough to see that a lady like your self is worth alot and it shows to people such as myself. May this smile warm your heart :)  and help make your day just a little easier.

I have followed your story and felt so happy for you when you met your guy.  Gosh he was always ther for you and you did such great things together. 

I feel for you in the actions you must take for yourself.  I wish you the best of luck and support. 

I know that all of us on this site care about you.  Best of luck

Oh Milly, this was the last think I wanted to read when I logged in today.  I am in hopes that this is just some misunderstanding. I guess at the end of the day he was like Brad....there was just this nagging feeling about him.  I could never quite pin point but a gut feeling. 

You have my email.

Take care. Abrazos.

I'm so sorry. ((((((hugs))))))))))))

Dear MiliP,
You are in my thoughts and prayers.

The hopeful side of me is wishful that this is just a misunderstanding.

The realist in me knows that once you have been cheated on, your experience gives you knowledge and sensitivity that allows you to recognize cheating more quickly than the first time. 

Reading your entries over the year have always been an inspiration to me - showing what true beauty and grace really mean.  I know you can believe in and trust in yourself.  Your beauty, strength, faith and honor will always get you through difficult times.  And in the end, whether you are with someone or not, betrayed by someone or not, you will always be the winner in the end.

So sorry to hear this.  I thought your guy seemed really good but if he did that to you with you just being divorce from that exact thing it says something very different.  I guess cheaters don't understand the pain they cause by their actions.  For the life of me I don't see how people can do that.  You'll be okay Milly and there are faithful people in this world but apparently not as many we would like to have...regardless of what happens the sun did shine this morning.....

I can only imagine how you must feel.  I wish there was something I could do.  I have been on this site for awhile and have read so many of your blogs.  You seem to be such a good and caring person.  I am sorry you have to go through this.  I will keep you in my prayers.

I cannot sleep and I am sick to my stomach...oh how I remember this feeling...How I had hoped to never experience it ever again...I am not mistaken...I found out more, the conversation has to take place yet but I know....My eyes are gritty and I have to get up this morning at 4 am to go to work and I have yet to be able to close my eyes...

I guess it is better that I find out now rather than later...It hurts now, later would be even more brutal. I think I am done with dating for a long while...I think I will concentrate on my son's football season or do my best...

Thank goodness it didn't get to the point of me falling in love with him, although, with the way I feel right now, maybe I was further along in the process than I thought I was...

millie, i am soo sorry that you are going through this.it is not fair for you. i do  think there are some good guys left out there but we have to find them.. its really hard to find a good honest man that you can trust.. but i know in my heart that they are around..i hope for you that he has not done this to you. if indeed he has, dont let it stop you from moving on. ok

HUGS

cherbear

I hope your "gut" is wrong.  It is heartbreaking to even imagine.  I know that I have thought about this --- would I ever be able to trust again?
My sister was dating this great guy for a year and then found out that he was dating someone else the entire time and lying.  She had an instinct that it was so - but she thought maybe it was just her fear that made her wonder.  Sadly - she was right.  And now she is heartsick.  I pray that it is not true for you!
Take care

Wow, I feel really bad for you, it seemed things were going so well for you lately. I don't know what happened to make you think something was going on, but if you have a feeling...your probably right. Our gut usually knows before our brain, at least that's how it was with my ex...I knew something was wrong, but didn't want to believe it.

If your not right, then great, you can move past it, you have all the reason to be at least a little insecure and untrusting.

As for not trusting your instincts where men are concerned, I feel the same about women...it's funny how being betrayed can do that. Ultimately I have decided that I have to live life and although it's not easy, I just have to roll the dice.

There are faithful men out there, who are looking for real relationships (I'm one of them), but I know what you mean...sometimes it seems to me there are no ladies out there looking for the same.

Nothing is as easy as before your heart is broken.

I do hope it works out for you.

oh honey *hugs you* I wish I had some wisdom for you. I hope you're wrong about him, you seemed happy dating him.

I am sorry that you are walking in familiar territory again. I pray that it is just a misunderstanding for your sake. Just try to remember that the you are a good person and his issues are just that his issues. Please take care of yourself. I will keep you in my prayers.

First off (((hugs)))  I don't know what's transpired to make you think that he's cheating,  so I too hope it's a misunderstanding.

I know that after having been cheated on it's incredibly hard to trust a partner.  Hell, it's hard to trust yourself after something like that.

There is nothing wrong with you Mil.  You're a strong, beautiful, caring woman.  Any guy would be damn lucky to have you.

You have been so happy lately.  I hate see a friend hurt by something like that especially after what you have been through.  There are faithful people out there still.  You know me and my ugly story.  I really hope it is just a big misunderstanding and hopefully your talk will set things right.  I wouldn't look at like it's something about you.  If he has cheated it's about him.  You told me that once and it's true.  Prayers to you and tomorrow the sun will shine....

I have to scratch my head and wonder.  I've always been the type to keep my word and my commitments.

With that mindset, I believe in honor and truth.  Unfortunately, at least in my case, it led to my expectation that I would be treated in the same way.

I've been wrong.

Nowdays I expect the worst and hope for the best.  I miss the days when I was naive and open hearted, but realize that those qualities contributed to where I find myself now.

You seem like a smart, strong woman and I'm guessing that you feel the way you do for specific reasons.  I'm sorry you are experiencing this and wish you the best.

i am so sorry.  i hope for your sake this is a mistake and you will be closer for your honesty.  but if not i understand your doubts.  i still feel like i can't even get close to seeing another man because i can't be hurt like this again.  apperantly it truely is hard for people to be faithful. i never even thought about cheating even when things were at their worst in our marriage. i am praying for you and for your family as i know your kids have become attached to him to.  please don't transfer any of his dishonest behavior and the guilt to yourself.  as always, you have been honorable to the core.