how soon is too soon to introduce new girlfriend to kids?  

LOL~ this is hilarious~ I am not really laughing sorry for that ~but my stbx just filed at the beginning of July next week introduced the OW  to the kids and the week after moved her into the formal marital home with her kids.

She is at all visitations~sleeps with him every night when my kids are over there at visitation now is meeting all my kids friends at my thier school~ uh there is no scruples with this guy or his new HB~ and apparently in the court nothing they can do about it~ morality isnt really an issue~APPARENTLY!

I can't help but wonder if your ex didn't know her before that first date.  My ex swore to me he wasn't cheating or leaving me for another woman, but it turned out that not only was he cheating, but his new girlfriend was helping him get the divorce papers made up before he even told me he wanted one.

Obviously, your ex told you what he wanted you to believe or thought you wanted to hear.  There will probably be a lot of hurt and devastation before you get to that blessed point of indifference.  You can protect your children as best you can by loving them and loving yourself.  I know how hard it is, but try not to take what your ex or his family does personally. 

As my daughter tells me all the time, "Try to be the better person, Mom.  We all know what Dad is."

OH I meant to add that I think this woman sounds a bit on the shady side as if maybe she is looking for a meal ticket?? No good will come of that!

My ex met a woman online the first week of July, right off the bat, he is in a relationship in facebook, he is going to meet her kids, having our kids over to meet her and taking her to the place that we used to hang out together for happy hour to meet all our, ahem.. excuse me, his friends.
I have been dating someone for a few months, while my family knows him already, I didn't choose to integrate everyone as fast as my ex did. I wanted to be sure this was a real and honest relationship before I jumped in and dragged my kids with me. In the long run, they are the ones that are going to be hurt by my bad examples.
Gee, I just don't know. I can't understand the fact that some people feel the need to grab on to someone or anyone to make themselves feel like somebody!! Whether I have my boyfriend or not, I want to be a good person to my kids. Not drag them around to meet various men. Just my thought. I don't think you are overreacting.

the only thing i am thankful for is my divorce agreement forbids him from having unrelated members of the opposite sex for overnight visits while my childen are with him. i have lost all trust and respect for this man and can't even look at him when he picks up the kids. He accused me of abusing him cos i sent him an e-mail telling him it was wrong what he was doing.

Are you sure that he only started dating her last month?  It all seems way too fast.

Sorry you're going through this.  And no, you're not the only one who thinks this is wrong.  Have his friends told you this, or has he told you his friends said  there is nothing wrong with it?

It's too soon. My ex did this with his gf and it was horrible because all it did was confuse my kids. Mine basically did what yours did and introduced her not more than a month after he started seeing her, moved in with her 2 months after that so you can imagine what visitation was like. Turns out this girl has just as many issues as my ex and there have been domestic violence problems in their relationship. You don't know someone after just 3 dates I'm sorry.

Really there's little you can do about it. I mean you guys are divorced and you can't control who he brings around your kids. People told me that when I was where you are earlier this year. Unless she's an actual "danger" for your kids to be around there isn't anything you can do. Yeah it hurts and yeah he's a moron but wait it out I'm telling you karma will get him 3 fold...

this is her second marriage in 4 years, she has 3 kids herself and my ex has already been to her house and met her poor children, he also goes to her house when her kids are in bed, does anybody else think this is wrong or only me cos my ex tells me that his friends tell him there is nothing wrong with what he is doing!!!!

It's way to soon for him to be introducing her to your children.  Three dates?  He barely knows her himself.  Of course, the next issue (for me at least) would be that she herself is married with no divorce proceedings in the works.

Tacky.