Finally! I had the best night ever since my nightmare began 

I wanted to post something positive that I experienced. I thought it would be refreshing after all the misery I post about dealing with.

Had my 20 year high school reunion last night. I had the BEST night. And I think I have my lying, cheating bastard of a husband to thank for it.

As I see it, because of what he did to me I lost 50 pounds. I gained some of it back before the reunion, but not that much. I was able to fit into my hot size 12 dress that I bought before I got pregnant and was never able to wear since. So a point to him for helping me fit into that hot, sexy dress.

He completely bankrupted me so with no money and the overwhelming need to get divorced, I've been representing myself in our divorce. Representing myself through 2 days of trial in front of a judge and against an experienced attorney made me realize that I'm pretty badass. After handling that without any nervousness I walked in to my reunion without any reservations, butterflies or insecurities. So another point to him for giving me the gift of courage and strength to face anything life hands me and to enjoy life to the fullest as a result of not being weighed down by those other emotions.

I was unencumbered by a spouse which allowed me to interact with a lot more of my former classmates than if I had to introduce him to everyone and worry if he was having a good time or spending too much time with him. So point to him for enabling me to reconnect with as many former classmates as possible.

And most importantly (to me that is) as I was single last night, it allowed my BIGGEST crush in high school to spend the entire evening by my side as though HE was my date for the evening. If I had a husband last night there is no way I would know that my old high school crush, now has a crush on me! A billion points to my husband for being a lying, cheating bastard who destroyed everything I worked so hard for. Thank you SO MUCH! Never in a million years would I have believed that my high school crush would ever be interested in me. It's like a dream come true. Alas, I don't expect anything to come of it, but that one night I will remember forever. The dreams of an 18-year-old girl came true thanks to my STBX. :)

My high school crush asked me for my phone number and e-mail address at the end of the night. *sigh* I feel like I'm in a John Hughs movie.

PS - I sent my STBX a thank you note for giving me one of the best nights of my life last night. I gave him no details, just a note to let him know that I now agree with him that divorce is great and it is the best thing that will ever happen to us. Ironically, I think his mistress/baby momma/high school crush/ex-high school girl friend is leaving or has left him. LOL. He should have gotten divorced first if he wanted any shot at that relationship lasting.