Did an old flame cause your divorce? 

Amen to that lifeinpurgatory!

It's all about taking your vows seriously and what they were meant to be.  If someone wanted to step outside those bounds they will do it regardless of the method.  It's been happening since time began and to think it was done when the penalty was death back in the days....Some people are just broken for one reason or another.  My first love from high school called me up after she came back into town after 3-4 years of marriage and wanted to see me, said she had an open marriage.  I politely declined and said when I marry I will remain true.  So far I have, wish I could say the same for my wife.......

My 1st. ex reconnected with the ow on class reunion, he seeked her out and left me soon after. My nephew's stbxw recently did the same using facebook to find a past love and has decided to leave her marriage for someone she has not seen for over 15 years.
I believe that when this occurs, it was not because of access from the internet, but because they made the choice to seek out something they believe they lost out on years ago. It could have been a chance meeting in the super market, a phone call, many ways to reconnect if one so desires to do so... Almost a desperation to go back in time just to see what if! I have been in contact with people from my past over the years, but had no desire to seek out what could have been. Being one to take my marriage vows to heart, I live for now always, never for what once was... It's a moral choice, I believe we choose our own paths to take, right or wrong...

my soon to be ex reconnected with his old love from 20 years ago, she found him on mylife.com she supposedly emailed him to tell him they have a 19 yr old son together, she asked him to take a paternity test and yes it is his son. Well I read their emails and they could not believe they found each other again he admitted to me he has never stopped loving her so we are in the middle of a divorce now I do believe the internet wrecks alot of marriages but then again if a marriage was so strong would someone be so quick to end theirs?

Well I have to answer that with a NO because like sherman I burned every thing behind me. Meaning when its over its over no looking back. I wondered but thats it. Plus if I am married then there is no reason why I need to reconnect with my past. It only generates mistrust in some shape or form. Now if I come across my past when I was single I would  be polite and bring up noting about our times not worth it in the long run. If I lived it why would I want to relive my past now that would be scary.

I decided to file for divorce after 10 years of verbal abuse, thought it better to stay for the kids.  After I made my choice, I called my best friend, who told me he love me after all these years and wanted to be with me.  After the divorce is final, we will see where the new relationship goes.

Hey Paula, yep it happened to me. Feel free to browse through my blogs and such and if you have any questions, I'm an open book.

No, but I believe that between cell phones (in the past,  there was one phone, in the house, with one answering machine), texting, and internet (chat rooms, IM, internet dating, facebook, etc) makes it a lot easier for cheaters to commit adultery.

I think if a person had moral and principle in them to begin with, these shouldn't allure them into adultery.