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We have 3 cats and a dog; the cats are hers, essentially. They are 16, 16, and 15 years old. I don't care for them, to be honest, which she knows. I mean, they're my pets and I take care of them, but I'm not a cat person. And she is their goddess. Me--I'm the guy who feeds them. I have the 3 cats in my small apartment, and she agreed to take one of them. She was going to come get the cat last Saturday. Now, knowing that I'm going to see her gets me anxious. I want to work on the marriage, and she is having a lot of fun dating and having no responsibilities to anyone. I'd love to see her everyday, but that's not happening, of course. So knowing I'm going to see her defines my day. Saturday she texted and said the day wasn't going to work for her, so how about Sunday? So, o.k., I agreed to Sunday. She texts on Sunday and tells me one of her friends from hundreds of miles away is in town, can she pick the cat up on Monday. Sure, I say. I get out my yoga class on Monday evening to a text--a job came up, can she pick the cat up on Tuesday. Fine,  I say. I get a text Tuesday afternoon telling me that since eh's going out of town for the weekend of the 4th, can she pick the cat up Sunday evening. Sure, I say. I just got a text from her--she's running late getting back into town, can she pick the cat up tomorrow? 5 times in a week I've geared up for what will surely be a brief meeting, and 5 times she's canceled. I don't think (or don't want to think) that she's playing a game, but this sure hurts each time. So here I sit typing. I wish I had such a full life that her not coming means that I can return to all my other obligations. Since I have a very simple life right now, each cancellation is one more reminder of how empty my life is right now.
by ChristopherSly  14 Posts 

Posted on 7/5/2009 8:01 PM
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I'm just wondering why you can't bring the cat to her. Make her be vailable for the specific time and make sure she keeps the appointment. Tell her you need to get this done. It will only be a breif meeting either way and you wont keep hurting yourself with the emotional cancellations.
by Heartbrokepicker   418 Posts
Posted on 7/8/2009 1:09 PM
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Lets give her the benefit of the doubt. I don't think she is playing a game. It seems that now, she is taking care of herself and her social life is priority. She knows the cat is being fed and taken care of so she is not worried. Make sure you do the same. Take care of yourself. Go out and have fun with a friend. Don't stay home waiting for her. Easier said than done but you should try it. Let her know that your time is valuable too.
by ECV   44 Posts
Posted on 7/5/2009 9:37 PM
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I understand, my ex is having the time of his life not being responsible for anything!  I have two dogs but they are my dogs he's not getting them, he had a snake here but I made or I should say my laywer made him come for it, but of course he chose a day I wouldnt be around.  I hate so say it but its called "avoiding".
by Shelly27   6 Posts
Posted on 7/5/2009 8:13 PM
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