It's actually going to happen 

One other thing, from your other blogs.  Doesn't she also still expect you to pay for everything 100%, including her new place?

This is what my ex wanted too.  He needed to find himself (which meant he wanted to be with other people) but he just couldn't get why we "still can't be best friends".  He wanted it all.  I did it for awhile and then realized I was like a dog begging for scraps. 

I like what spaznskitz wrote - let her realize what she has really lost.  It's a little late in the game to be playing "house".

I forgot to share one of my favorite quotes which fits perfectly for this situation:

Do not allow someone to be your Priority, while allowing yourself to be their Option.

Words to live by feebo.

Wow, I agree with spaz.  I haven't done that in awhile.  I love that last line:  She can move out - but YOU set the terms. I can't begin to tell you how important that is.  When my stbx moved out it was all on his terms.  When things started coming out about the affair and all the deception, I got my big girl panties on and started defending myself.  I'll be damned if he will ever get away with this.  Our marriage has had it's problems and I have always been there to pick up the pieces afterwards. I honestly believe that my stbx thought if it doesn't work with the OW that I will be there to fall back on.  I have made it abundantly clear that is not the case.  He's starting to freak out.  I have always been in charge of the money.  He's resented it.  He's late on 2 of his bills already and we've only had the temporary hearing a month ago.  His GF got laid off from her job in December, is now foreclosing on her home and is moving 400 miles to be with him.  He has lost all respect from his children.  His looks terrible.  He's aged like 20 years in the last 6 months and has gained like 30 pounds.  His world is starting to fall in around him and he has no clue.  He chooses to be clueless.  I will no longer let all this negativity bring me down.  Is it difficult?  Unbearably.  But I have let him "control" the last 22 years.  I'm taking control of my life now and will not let him destroy the next 22.  Hang in there.

I see where Jamesalone got confused - it CAN read like you need a break from your wife, not a "break" from women in general due to being hurt and confused.

If she wants her space - which I, personally find extremely sophomoric - teenagers take "breaks" and "need space to find themselves" - married adults - they stick it out and work together under the same roof and go to counseling and find EACH OTHER -

Anyway, if she wants her space, then give it to her - give her a hell of a lot more than she expected to get. With the exception of anything having to do with the children, cut her off entirely. She can't miss you  & realize the mistake she is making if you go by her idea and are always there.

Let her know you are perfectly capable of making your own dinner and getting your own lunch, as for sex, if it is going to be that impersonal, then you'd prefer the company of your left hand (or your right - which ever you are better friends with)  Explain that the only "us" time you will even entertain the idea of spending will be with a marriage counselor.

She can move out - but YOU set the terms.

Ok let me explain somethings that were not obvious. She is the one who wanted the seperation. She has suggested all the cooking stuff etc. I don't know how I am supposed to deal with all this. Am I supposes to cut her pretty much out of my life? Do I love her? Yes. Does she want to be with me? No. She doesn't want to work on the marraige. She wants the space. As for the "break... as usual, James please don't bust my chops about puncuation there is an exclamation point between break and usual with usual being capitalized signifying the end of a sentence.

two, too and too, hope you know which one I meant

You need a break as usual?  what the heck does that mean?  Sounds to me like she is trying to bring back the feelings of when you two first met.  Go with that and save what you to have.

I'm confused. 

She's moving out but you're to come over, stay over, she'll cook and make your work lunch and still be intimate?

And you said you guys get along really well.

So why are you guys going to live under separate roofs again?

Sounds like a waste of money to keep another place.  Why not just stay together and work on your marriage?