A Wonderful Sex Life with No Communication OR Lousy Sex and Great Conversation?? 

Right now, the sex is it.   However, as time passes, and not a lot of time, communication is the ticket.   How can you get into a ball game without a ticket?   Communication is so important at all levels of humanity.   In a couple, sex starts in the brain and from there, electricity starts everything.   You know the rest..........

Sex is communication. Sex is a way of communicating a desire to be close, loving and connected. Sex is a language in and of itself. When it is shared by two people those two people can continually expand their vocabulary and fine-tune the meanings of certain interactions. This type of communication requires the same level of attentiveness, listening, and clarification as talking does. Like verbal communication, there is room for misunderstanding and disconnection.

In romantic love, when two people have sex, oxytocin is released, which helps bond the relationship.

If I had to absolutely choose I would choose the great sex and to hell with the great conversation.   I have great friends for great conversation but I don't want to have sex with them.

Great sex is a gift from the gods and I would choose it any day.

well I use to think communication  and sex was important untill I had a g/f that told me one time during sex and I ask her an important question and she said to shut up and put my mouth on somthing. So I threw the book away.

Only you Gomezz...lol

well I have a question communication  would screaming  my name while we are having sex count

I'll take the mind blowing sex, and a little conversation, with a guy 10 years younger, since October.  He is the strong silent type, which is golden to me since the only thing the EX can do is scream, that's after the 1 year mark.

I can communicate well with a lot of people.  I only have sex with one.  Earth-shattering sex wins, definitely.  I'l get my communication needs met elsewhere.

My marriage started out with both, then sex fell by the wayside....then the communication went south....so what the hell do I know? But I think I would lead toward great communication......
HereIgo - that was too funny!! :)

Communiction is the main key which opens up all other horizens. If we'r not communicting, then it not a marriage, It is contract which should be broken( sooner the better). Believe me I was in this kind of marriage for 38yrs. I finnally gave up every thing filed for uncontested divorce and left her and adult kids for good. THANKS

I vote for having great communication and great sex....lol...If I absolutely had to choose, great communication....I understand exactly what V meant when she said it doesn't do much for you to feel like a piece of meat...There has to be tenderness, affection, and I believe you have to communicate well to truly have great sex...It takes the ability to communicate well to understand what pleases each other...We could work on the sex as long as the communication was there...I think it is easier to improve sex than it is communication...

Hmmm, as a member of the jury, I would like to review all the evidence before rendering a verdict.  Let's see...(pondering)...upon review, mind-blowing sex wins. 

Passion begins in the mind. Hence, if a man can't communicate, he's not getting into my mind. And I assure you, if he's not getting into my mind, he certainly won't be getting anywhere else.

So communication for me is crucial. Sex is a bonus, but there are other forms of intimacy w/o intercourse that can satisfy.

I'd prefer to have both but if one had to get taken away, then I'd have the sex taken away.  I mean if I was in love w/a guy and all was good then something happened to where he couldn't be intimate I'd still be faithful to him.  But if I were w/a guy w/good sex but communication started to slack to where we didn't get along, I wouldn't desire him anyway.

Uh, I have neither so right now either would be a nice change.

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Ok, I am a bad, bad girl so you should probably ignore everything I say.

i've been intimate with a much younger man since November of last year. He cares about me, I care about him, but I don't think this will be long term. He does. He keeps saying it's more than sex. He might be right.

My x was very affectionate but didn't want sex. He's gay pretending to be straight.  

Sex without emotional attachment just isn't worth it. Emotion without sex is frustrating. I think you can have both without a long term committment. I might change my mind.

This doesn't answer the question, does it? I'm still confused.

I've never fantasized about a great conversation, but I see it as a great part of a relationship.

I'm not a huge conversationalist, but great sex definitely loosens my tongue. 

Hmmm, did that come out right?

It's totally possible! Just takes some time and sampling to find it ;)

Great communication has my vote. The sex was great with the ex but can I say he was a MAJOR jerk.  I felt like a piece of meat afterwards. There was no holding or kisses.  Nothing personal about it. He would literally go watch tv afterwards. I was left in bed alone and often cried. It was not worth it at the end.

I am now in a relationship with a very sensitive man. The sex is good, great no but I can honestly tell you his caresses, kisses and tenderness melt me. For me, it works.

Sex life?   Haven't had that for so long I forget what it is like, even one that isn't satisfying!

For me the physical release is possible even when a relationship is not working out or there is no real relationship.  I do, however, find it especially sweet and memorable when both parties are fully invested with one another and present for one another, communicating, interacting, and supporting the other person.

I may be a dreamer, but I really think it is possible to have it all.  Maybe I can't find anyone to share that with ME, but I do still believe it is possible.  And I'm not done with life yet, so who knows what might even happen for me someday.

I don't think you can have great sex without good communication.  When me and me ex stopped communicating the sex life went with it.

Yes it is possible! I believe it- and I also believe it will happen for us! We just need to be patient and wait!
I have been in relationships both ways! I want someone who is not shallow and can communicate but will be willing to meet my needs as well. He doesn't have to be the  greatest in bed- at first - but have a willingness to LEARN!
Not a fill in dad for my kids but someone they can look up to! A good example of a man- who can treat a woman well!
I hate it when they are great in bed- attentive and communicative at first and all that dies down after a bit!
Show us the real thing at first- don't put on a show and then let your real colors show after we are attached! Be real ! Be honest! Be yourself!
That is the way I feel about it!