anxiety....cures? 

I too experience anxiety, which is new to me. Until this marriage and dealing with his deceptions, the fear of being lied to again or finding out something again, has driven me to have daily attacks.  They start as soon as I get out of bed.  I think mine are caused by a habit I have created of wanting daily check ups on my spouse and my "I have to know" attitude.  I was fine until he started this new job and now has a separate work phone. I have a note on my computer at work that says "No more games = Peace" to remind me that if he wants to play his games, he has to do it without me.  The anxiety, stomach issues, headaches are not worth it anymore. I do a lot of deep breathing, watch this site during the day and my blogging has helped along with everyone's comments. I hope to make some friends here. Sometimes just a sympathetic ear helps, even when I have to admit something I did was wrong.  I have decided he will not win this time.

Separation and divorce are not easy to go through and your anxiety is normal.  It will take some time for your feelings of nervousness and anxiety to subside, even when looking at just a picture of her.  But it also sounds like you have already taken some steps to begin dealing with your anxiety. 

The key is that you have acknowledged you have the anxiety and are aware of its cause.  One positive step is exercising and I would continue to encourage that.  Other ways include relaxation techniques through breathing and stretching exercises.  Also consider it may take considerable time for you to feel less anxious.  I'm sure there are also support groups available of many people who have experienced the same feelings you are having.  In some sense, it can be a mind game that you play on yourself and you will eventually have to make the decision to move forward. 

 

If the anxiety continues for an extended period of time or becomes more severe, I have found that talking with a counselor can be therapeutic.  Good Luck.