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What in the world? My ex called me tonight. Started with the usual comments and questions about our boys. Which I still don't understand why he calls me - both boys are grown and have their own cell phones. The conversation takes a weird twist when he started asking me about my move to a new apartment in a couple of weeks. I am moving to a new apartment in a beautiful part of town. This past year in this place has been one of transition, becoming accustomed to the single life after 25 years of marriage. I will have my best friend living in the same building and we will be there for each other. I wouldn't tell him where I was moving to. Why! He has his girlfriend, his "soulmate". He has told everyone how happy he is now and how much better life is now. Why tell me he misses me? What part is he missing? He wants to know why we can't be friends? Why tell me he isn't really that happy? Awww, is the grass not really that much greener on the other side? How can you be friends with someone who is an egomaniac? It takes every ounce of my composure just to be civil because of the pain that my boys and I went through. Did he really think it would be that easy to just replace me with her and that everyone else in this small town would be happy for him? "That it's no big deal, everyone is divorced at least once." (His words, not mine.) I have every right to move on with my life without getting a weekly phone call from about much of nothing. Although when I do ignore his phone calls, sometimes they are important and they are about things we have to discuss. This is all very confusing and I just want a life without drama for awhile.

by demoralized 61 Posts

Posted on 7/13/2009 11:44 PM

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My stbxh is also in contact with me more now....only through text messages, though. In fact, when he called me on the phone the other day (one of our dogs was seriously ill and at the animal hospital)...I didn't even recognize his voice!

I know he is now realizing the grass isn't so green where he is.....but he will never admit that outright. Sounds like yours is now realizing that, but hey, that's what they wanted right? I like VLady's "call 1 800-Friend"!
:)

by zuki 685 Posts
Posted on 7/15/2009 8:55 AM

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So that grass on the other side ended up being weeds, huh? Awe, too bad for him. Tough sh*t, haha!!!

I would first tell him to only call you if it pertains directly to the kids. If he calls, then tries to say something else, tell him the same thing. He'll get the hint when he sees you won't entertain his conversations.

And hey, congrats on the new place and bright future. It's wonderful that you'll be living next to a best friend too.

by lifeinpurgatory 1830 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2009 5:45 PM

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Let him leave messages on the answering machine or cell. Keep the conversation short. Friends don't hurt us in that way. He needs a friend he can call 1-800-FRIEND.

Sometimes they realize the grass was not greener. If she is so wonderful then why keep calling you? What could possibly be that important that it cannot be conveyed through email or voicemail?

Congrats on the new apt. You will feel better and no you do not owe him an explanation.

Abrazos.

by vlady 2123 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2009 10:05 AM

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Sounds like he and my stbxh are cut from the same cloth. I got an earful of it yesterday. Finally I said "I can never trust you again. Why would you want to live with someone who would always doubt everything you say and expect the worst from you? Why would you want that kind of life?". He was quiet for a moment and then said that he wouldn't want to live that way. He still had more guilt stuff to try to dump on me, but I just told him that I couldn't talk anymore, said goodbye, hung up on him, and then turned off my ringer. Life is too short for these mental games. I am going to tell him next time that we should limit our conversations to discussing our son and leave the rest to the attorneys.

by BeachKat 120 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2009 8:44 AM

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Me and mine were together 20 years, the divorce was final at the end of April. She has become miss sweetness and gee I love our kids, I think it's jus a phase. Give it 6 months and see if you still get the same response. Be well

by Jamesalone 2778 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2009 2:09 AM

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I moved out of state. LOL My attorney told me my divorce was far enough along that we could do most of it by phone or email. When I am needed in court I will go back.
Of course my children are grown.
I like scrapper's idea of letting the answering machine pick up. Sometimes the grass is not greener on the other side.

by sjg 1773 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2009 1:58 AM

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Congrats on getting your own place. That's important. I'm married for 25 yrs. as well and would love to go somewhere else. Can't tho until divorce is final. God knows when that will be. I'm with you too on the ignoring his phone calls cuz they could be important, but that's why they invented answering machines. It's nice to know the grass isn't always greener with the other woman too. Shouldn't be green at all, but brown an dried up right? With him sitting alone in the middle of it wondering how it happened. Oh, maybe he should have taken care of and nurtured it? Too late now. Get some grass seed. There's plenty of fertilizer sitting on the lawn.

by scrapper 183 Posts
Posted on 7/14/2009 12:14 AM

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