Last night's date 

Here's the update.

Things went well enough last night. At dinner, I explained to him that I was in a place of needing to move on with my life, with or without him. I reiterated the essentials if we were to reconcile (counseling, better communication) and told him that, if these things weren't things he could agree to, no deal.

Now, he's been very busy with taking a full load of grad courses and working full time during the end of a school year (he's a teacher). His head has been so crammed full work/school stuff that he hasn't really thought much about "us." I get that and told him that I wasn't asking for a decision on his part right now. However, I do want to revisit this in 3 months and I told him that I would be making my decision then...whether he was ready or not.

He appreciated my honesty and forwardness and told me so. He said everything sounded fair and logical. The rest of the evening was rather enjoyable.

The next three months are for me. Mal, Mal, Mal. He can make what ever efforts he wants, but I'm pretty well done until this swings one way or the other. The countdown starts!