Good News At Last!!!!! 

Sorry for not posting for a long while but I have had lots of stuff going on between trying to find a lawyer, a job and school life has been a whirl wind to say the least! But I finally have some good news about the lawyer! Today I will be heading to my lawyer's office and paying the retainer fee!!! HOORRAAYYY!!!!!! With everything that I have on my stbx she said there shouldn't be a problem with me getting full legal and physical custody of my son and getting supervised visits!!!! She also told me that I do not have to maintain contact with him or do anything he says, like sending photos when he requests them etc. She also told me that I should not talk to his family either or let his family see Zack until this is all said on done. Which that is really not a problem, I have not heard a word out of his family since my son's birthday and I doubt that I will hear anything else out of them period since my son is too much of an inconvience. Their loss honestly they are missing out on watching a wonderful little boy grow up. Also I am going to a psychiatrist and working through my issues with all of this. She said that I have depression and I am suffering from battered wife's syndrome. So I have been seeing her once a week for about 3 weeks now and I am feeling so much better about a lot of what I went through and I am finally feeling like more and more of this is being put behind me and starting to really look forward to starting my life again and I am starting to have brand new look on things. I know I am not ready for any kind of relationship right now. Well I shouldn't say any kind, I am always up for meeting new people and making friends! But as far as me getting romantically involved with anyone, that wont be for a long time yet and I am totally okay with that.

I also have read three books that I think many of us might find interesting, especially those of us who are on the road to finalizing our divorces and starting to look at the world of dating as a huge challenge.

Book number 1

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to recognize it and how to respond. by Patricia Evans.

*Fast read and I could relate to so many aspects of this book it was kind of uplifting, because I was not the only one, but sad that there are so many women and a few men that go through this kind of hell.

Book number 2

How to spot a dangerous man before you get involved.

by Sandra L. Brown, M.A.

*This book made me realize that I should have been paying attention to my red flags for a long time and if I had been paying attention it would have saved me a lot of grief. Really good read, fast and easy!

He's just not that into you.

by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo

*This book is amazing!! I bought the audio book version and it made me laugh out loud on several occasions. Greg really has some good advise and lets us women know that we should not waste the pretty on men who don't deserve it. They also touch on abusive and controling relationships.