Did You Know Who The Other Woman/Man Was? 

I was introduced to her shortly after moving to the new city.  I didn't think anything of it at the time.  Then we went to his co-workers wedding a year later and he didn't re-introduce us as he did with the other people around.  That should have been a flag to me.  But, they are now together and living a fairy tale life.  Hope it works out well for them.

I knew her well.  Helped her plan her second wedding; was a friend and a confident.  What a bitch.  Funny how in all of this I was able to forgive him but honestly I just can't get over what a completed and total c**t this woman turned out to be.  Yep.  I'm with Milly on this one, I wouldn't piss on her if she was on fire, but I might run her over with a car.

Talk about meant for each other.  These two will probably live happily ever after together for their long and hollow lives.

I didn't know the first one but went to work for a bank & would wait on her.  She wasn't prettier and was a low life.  The second one was nothing but a whore that I went to school with.  She had the face of a dog but a great body.  The third wasn't pretty either but also had a good body and he liked telling me what a great body she had.  We went to a Christmas party and he left me alone to go and sit with her.  I know what the fourth one looked like and she was pretty and had more class than the others before her.  These are only the ones that I know about but I'm sure there's more.  Tables have turned now and I'm the one seeing somebody.  He asked me if I was seeing somebody and I flat out lied and told him no.  Does it make it right because of what he's done to me?  No, I know it doesn't but I also don't feel that I owe him any loyalty or truth anymore.  I know that I should leave before seeing another man but with all of the mental and emotional abuse he's put on me I have to gain my strength and confidence first.  I'm tired of being alone, unloved, and not feeling that intimate connection with another person.  He's attracted to women who have the bodies of a super model...tall and thin.  There's nothing wrong with my body except that I will never be tall!  He shouldn't have married a petite woman if he didn't like them.  I've learned I can only be who I am and I'm so tired of trying to be perfect for him. 

There were many! I did know and did nothing :( in fact I was so numb to it all he convinced me that it was better for our marriage. Of course in the proceedings he was super prepared and knocked me down and came out smelling like roses, the othr women were attached (some) to people who worked for him so they did not want to be involved in helping me. He is with living and playing happy family in our home we built with one of the others which I now suspect was being done for a long time she was prob the only one I didn't know about!

I didn't know her then but chances are loads of people would know her now. She's been one of Time magazine's 100 most influential people. She approached my hubs after a talk he gave in another city. She was one of many for awhile when we were going through counseling. They married a few months after our divorce became final.

I don't know him but I know who he is.  He is short and average looking to my, as my stbx says tall and handsome. 

Don't know what is that the cheaters have other than saying all the right things in those secret moments they have.  She says he is "nice" and understand as he knows everything.  I wish I did.  I guess it doesn't really matter at this point.  Maybe the karma thing will kick in at some point.  I hope they have all the bliss they hope for.....

No I did not know the bimbo.  According to my daughter she was the office manager to a grocery store in the town where we lived.  I don't exactly know how they met, nor do I care.  Also according to my daughter, their relationship also broke up she and her husband.  I know that they have gotten married, however, I don't know when.  I am so much better off.  He cheated on me with her for approx. 5 yrs.  I am glad that we are done.  He had no interests, was boring as hell.  I used to wonder what we would be doing together after we retired.  Now I don't have to worry about it.  I had found out about 4 yrs prior that he was cheating on me with her and he supposedly broke it off, however, I don't think that he ever did, or if he did it was for a short while, then went back together.  I hope they are miserable.  I know she gives him a hard time about not having any interests.  Oh well, not my worry any more. 

I know who my now ex was seeing. She was the same tramp he cheated on me with before we married. The same woman who laid dying from a servered liver due to the car accident she was in after hearing on her cell that we were getting married. The same woman who survivied this horrific ordeal only to be diagnosised with breast cancer and underwent a mastectomy and reconstruction. The same woman who met someone at the hospital during her recovery and was flying off to Carbo San Luca to recuperate. The same women who sent a email to my husband telling him of all the trial and tribulations she was going through and how she is a better person for it. The same woman who had my husband on the phone 4 weeks later professing her love for him and his for her.The same woman who is a ' good  practicing Christian' and yet, sleeps around. The same woman, my now ex pimps out to other men ( and women?) under the reason of living a ' swinger's lifestyle'. I'm telling you, there is nothing more hurtful than to see your husbands privates and everything God gave her on an adult website ( yes, I investigated what was really going on).Both these God fearing people claiming they are doing nothing wrong and hurting no one. Both are morbidly obese. Yes, my husband lelt me for a slutty hefer. to compare her and I, she is about my height ( 5'5) but she has to be 325 + pds. She isn't very pretty and I know I'm a hell of a lot smarter than she is. They tell people my husband and I knew that I left him, deserted him........which wasn't the case. This dumb woman doesn't realize, he will do to her what he did to me. I can't wait................

I found out about the cheating through his cell phone call detail. That phone was supposed to be disconnected because we had gotten new phones, and when I found out it was still on, I started poking around to see who he was talking to. I think he was talking to several different women, but one number showed up more than others, and he was talking to her late at  night and in the wee hours of the morning, some just 3-5 minute phone calls, others were long phone calls. So I called and it was the cell phone number of a realtor. I didn't know her, but I googled her and found out who she was. A very beautiful realtor who denied knowing my husband. When I confronted him, he said he did know her, but he was only calling her to check listings on houses up for sale/rent - 5 and 6 times a day...right. so that's what we're calling adultery these days... some realtor - there for you 24/7!

He later admitted to having an emotional affair with her...and I'm almost certain he slept with her.

I knew of my 1st. ex's, but had never met her. We lived in a different state, she had been a gf in high school of his and they reconnected on-line, he seeking her out on the class reunion sight.  After a few trips to home town without me, I caught on! After I met her, I was shocked, all the things he complained about me, she was! He even had the gall to compare us, said we would get along as we were much alike in personalities, LMAO! NOT! I had not been married 3x's before, I would never sleep with a married man, and I certainly would not go around claiming to be a christain woman while having an affair with a married man! I have morals, she does not! She is heavier than me, not pretty by any stretch of the imagination, older, and laughs like a hyena, talks baby talk, and with a voice that would curl your hair! He said to me once, that I was low maintenance, I didn't pay others to do my hair, nails, have to have designer clothes, she does all that, but to no avail, LOL! So hope he is happy with her! Just recently we were all at a family birthday party, my sil pointed out to me how he kept watching me, everytime I left the room his eyes followed, ha! I admit, I dressed nicely, not for him, but for me, I had on tight black jeans, a black fitting top, low cut, and black heels, I felt good, my hair fixed nicely, my nails (I did myself) and felt good about myself! She on the other hand, had shorts on, big and baggy to cover the fat (which they didn't) a frumpy t-shirt that looked like it came out of the laundry unfolded, flip flops, messy hair, and makeup that looked like a clown did! Generally I don't judge people, I am quiet, and stay to myself, but I admit after my sil pointed out he was watching me, I flaunted my stuff  ; ) and damn it felt good! Hope he liked what he is lost! I wish them both well, they got what they each deserve!

She works with him...She was married too...He had my daughter babysit her kids once before this all came out...My daughter told me that she felt weird when they had left, like they were going on a date...I had assured her they were going to a co-worker's husband's funeral visitation...I think my daughter was smarter than I was...I had felt sympathy for her based off things my stbx had told me and I had offered help...It made me feel doubly betrayed...

When I served him his papers, she walked out of the office into the lobby where we were and wouldn't even look me in the eye....She couldn't...I made the comment, "There is your girlfriend." and my stbx just gave me the look...She scooted off to the bathroom....

She is several inches shorter than me, probably 5'2 to my 5'6 and she outweighs me by at least 40 pounds...I know he thinks she is beautiful but frankly, I think she looks like an ugly cow...She is the sloppy fat too...I hate to be crude but the only thing I think she could have going for her is she must give great head....

She is supposedly afraid of me...I told my stbx that she didn't have any reason to be afraid of me unless she messed with my kids...I told him that she was less than nothing to me and that I wouldn't waste the energy to piss on her if she was on fire....Sorry, to sound so crude but I really feel that they deserve each other at this point...They can sit back and wonder who is going to cheat on the other one first...

I don't know and I didn't ask.  Based on his behavior, it was some no-strings-attached hookup off Craigslist.  At least, that's what he seemed to be trolling all the time. 

What did she have that I didn't have (at the time)?  That's easy!  CHLAMYDIA! 

Yep, same exact story as Hereigo's...  I knew him well, very well.  He and I were two of 4 guy friends that played dominoes/cards at least one evening a week at our club.  We were all married, and our wives were all friends.  We did everything together, the 4 couples. 

I was shocked, still am, since he's 10 years older than my wife (and me) and going grey, and getting fatter and flabbier by the day.  But he was rich.  So, there you go.

Funny thing is though, since all this he's been outed as a cocaine addict, in addition to liar and cheating scumbag, so that just rounds out the all around douchebag.  I knew about the drug use, and I used to warn him, ask him to stop doing it.  He just shrugged it off.  I told my wife about his habit long before I discovered their affair, she defended him mightily but I never picked up on it.  We spent new years 2008 in Jamaica with him and his wife, and then our families went to the beach together that spring.  I found out about them the week after we got back from the beach.

Fucking amazing now that I think about it.

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well yeah it really did not matter though I knew what they got. as I told her to her face as I was leaving I do not have a use for another mans boothy call.

I knew him.

Thought I knew him well.

Or families were friends and we spent a lot of weekends and several vacations together.  More than anything, I think that helped to conceal the affair. 

In my mind, I could never have done this to a friend or another family.

I knew the second one too.  Not very well, but we sat together at stbx's work Christmas party's.  The second affair helped me realize she is broken inside and I can't fix it.

no, I don't think that you threw them together Paula, I think that he and she just took advantage of the situation.  In my ex's second other woman, I was taking her to work so much that I got tired of it because our daughter was just a baby and I was working so I asked him to take her to work and boy did she take advantage of that.....so, I don't think we did anything to put them together, I just think that they took advantage of us.

No I did not know her or any of the OW he had. I did meet this one he made sure that I did. She is not ugly nor pretty she is just average.
They are to get married after our divorce so my children will get to know her.
Strange how life is sometimes.

yes. knew her well.

odd, ciruclar story actually.

i hired her to do some work for our company years ago.  my ex and i worked together and we interviewed her team for the job.  he wanted her team because her partner was drop dead gorgeous.  so, they got hired.

flash forward x years and she was invited to both of my baby showers. we remained friendly (as in spin your rollodex friendly cuz you never know).  ex is unmeployed and i tell him to contact her for some freelance.  he does.  she gives him jobs.  she doesn't pay him.  he wants to scream at her and i beg him not to......networking i remind him is important.  she may help him someday.

and she does.  a year later she gets him an interview. he gets the job. they work next door to eachother. he cheats on me with her....she knows me. she knows we're married.  she goes along with the cheating.

he moves out one month later.

so bascially, i threw them together.  lovely.