What would it take to take them back part 2. 

So I saw Basset's post (thanks for the mention) and I wanted to comment further and add some details to see if the opinions given would change.

1. He was cheating on me months before i found out.

2. He took her on a cruise with him 2 days after i gounf out.

3. He's met her parents, spent time with her and her child, while only spending approx 11 weekends with his kids in the last 18 months.

4. He brought her into my home. This i know of only because she sent me a 2 page letter spelling out the layout, things that they did there, and then begging me to give him back to her.

5. He has lived in 4 different places in addition to moving in and out with her and our home. On more than one occassion slaming the door in my face because she was there.

6. I took him back 3 times just to have to kick him out 3 more times for continuing the affair.

7. I went to marriage counseling for 4 months to which he completely blew it off (mentally).

8. He's had people whom i thought were mutual friends cover for him.

9. He alienated his and my entire family.

10. He gave this woman all of my contact information to which I spent far too many nights arguing with her, him over all of this.

11. He's laughed at me when i cried. He said NO when i begged.

12. She posted pictures of the 2 of them on myspace (an arena which my teenage son frequents).

13. She sent me photos of them together.

14. He took away my self respect, dignity, and my life.

This is just a small, small glimpse of the last 18 months and it's hard ot believe this is what my life came down to after having been with this man for 17 years. Dumped in a minute.

It's not about the affair but what the affair took away. So I ask you, after knowing more details about my situation and if you had known or seen more about your own... would you still take them back?