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Feeling sad today

The computer has been wacky lately, not letting me get on the internet and so on. Which means I am just now catching up on reading several days' worth of blogs. I missed you guys. Sorry if this rambles bit, but here goes...

Today I have been feeling kind of weepy. Like I am close to tears, especially if someone is extra nice to me. Funny how I am prepared to deal with nastiness or indifference, but kindness and concern...well, that catches me off guard! It is now officially summer and my co-workers have started to take vacation time. I did not schedule any vacation time for myself, planning on saving it up for September and possible December. One of my guy friends at work has said to me a few times that I really should take some time off. He mentioned it again today. He said that he's worried about me and I should take some time for myself to do some fun things like go to an outdoor concert. They have free concerts every week downtown. I have lived in this city for 9 years and have never gone to any of those concerts. The thought of going alone makes me sad. Bringing my husband would be even worse, almost comical. He would complain about the crowd, the heat, the noise...

This same co-worker told me that he worries about me waiting outside for the bus at night(I work 4 to midnight). He told me that he was looking in a catalog and saw tasers and thought of me. "Hey, meteor should have one of those." They even have a cool one that looks like a cell phone. Of course, in New York I can't legally buy one. I laughed, but the fact that he worries about me is sweet. I am so used to being the worrier, making sure that everybody else is safe and happy.

by meteor 488 Posts

Posted on 6/25/2009 1:54 AM

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Meteor, stop beating yourself up about the whole husband not caring thing. It's taken me months but I finally am believing that it's his issue, not mine. His insecurities and problems are what drove him to make bad decisions and wrong choices. Did I contribute to the communication issues? Yes, I did. But it takes 2 to repair a marriage and I was willing and he wasn't. He and the other woman deserve each other. They are 2 very selfish, self-serving individuals and may they live miserably ever after!

As far as the T-shirt goes:

GO! DO! BE!
(no more woulda, coulda shoulda)

I think we might be on to something!

I'll be in NY over New Year's. My oldest will be 21 on 1/3. I don't know where you live but I feel a friendship coming on. Let's do lunch! I'm serious!

by flutterby 829 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2009 11:13 AM

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You guys are awesome (and hilarious)! Robert, I think I want to put "Go Do Be!" on a T-shirt. Flutterby, I like the idea of trying to get a female friend to go with me. A woman I used to work with before I transferred to my new job recently started working in the same building. She might be up for it. My guy friend at work...well, he's just a little too cute and things are already sort of awkward between us. I'm trying to keep some distance. Vlady, you are right about the whole sitting at home and moping thing. The more I isolate myself, the more time I have to feel lousy and play "woulda-coulda-shoulda". Ugh. Deborah, it is nice that I have people who care about me. At the same time, it's sort of bittersweet. My friends show more concern for me than my husband.

by meteor 488 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2009 12:58 AM

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Get yourself out there. You can choose to be sad and sit at home or go out. GO OUT!! It is worse when you have time to sit and go re-play the marriage. Not good.

by vlady 2123 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 4:16 PM

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I like that comment Robert, Go! Do! Be! That is going to be my new mantra!

by flutterby 829 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 3:25 PM

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Isn't it nice that you have someone who cares about you? that is a true blessing. I think that you need to get out and do some things but I feel that you will do that when you are ready. I hope things get better for you.....it just takes time.

by deborah-trevino 1099 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 3:22 PM

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See, Meteor, You've got friends and people who care. Maybe you should get some work friends and go see one of the concerts. Just hango out and have fun. I think you should take a vacation and get the heck out of dodge. Go somewhere you've always wanted to go but never could. Use it as a chance to recharge your batteries. We all need that. I know what it's like when everything goes wrong, and you're trapped in the rut of routine. Go! Do! Be! my friend, and enjoy yourself!

by Robert-Boyd 5134 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 2:43 PM

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There is nothing wrong with going alone. Embrace it. But, you could also see if a neighbor wants a night out also. There are so many lonely people out there. Call a friend you haven't seen in awhile. I'd say ask the co-worker but it may be too soon for that, but what about a co-worker's wife? Someone that you met at an office party and thought would be fun but you never got around to doing anything with them? The possibilities are endless. Go enjoy the music. Music does wonderful things for the soul.

by flutterby 829 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 10:28 AM

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You guys are right. I should go at least once. If nothing else, the people-watching should be interesting.

by meteor 488 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 10:16 AM

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I found once I started going to things alone I felt empowered. Go to one of the concerts and make yourself mingle.

by sjg 1773 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 9:11 AM

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Definitely go to one of those concerts...It helps to be around other people sometimes, and sometimes it accentuates the feeling of being lonely but even if you don't have a good time the first time, it makes you feel good to get out to do something...

by militaryp 2952 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 6:20 AM

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