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I got a phone call from him yesterday, and immediately I wondered what he wanted NOW! I know this man and he doesn't call unless he wants something or something is wrong....I was right. He proceeded to tell me that he was giving up our home, the one that he fought me so hard to keep. He also told me that he never liked that house, it was ugly, too big and the yard was way too much for cutting. He totally put it all down. He only wanted to fight me for that house because he thought that I would eventually come back to him like I did the last time....but I just couldn't. I was sooooooooo done with him and his cheating. And what's worse, is that he told me that I only have a week to get the rest of my things out of there and asked for ME to set HIS sofa sets out to the curb for him so someone could get a free couch. He said those couches were nasty. I asked about the dishes that I had left for him and he said that he threw most of them out because they were ugly. I am so glad that my name isn't on the paperwork anywhere....I signed it all over to him years ago. He informed me that the house that he and his OW live in now was very cheap rent, just like it was the last time we split and he lived with her. It's going to be okay though, and another chapter of my failed marriage is over.

by deborah-trevino 1099 Posts

Posted on 6/23/2009 7:12 AM

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I have heard via the grape vine that I wouldn't give him (ex) anything even though he walked away debt free and with half of the household furnishings. You know.....I can lay my head on my pillow each night and sleep peacefully because I know in my heart of hearts that I did what was right even though he didn't. I am at peace in that aspect. That's the best I think you can hope for and if he thinks different you're not going to change his mind no matter how hard you try to convince him otherwise. Let go and let him think what he wants to..you know the truth.

by Sleeplessinal 11 Posts
Posted on 7/5/2009 10:16 AM

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What a jack***! My x wanted to keep the house. I couldnt afford it and I also didnt want it either. The best part of it was. Before the divorce we had an appraiser go in. He said the house smelled of all the animals(most of them are the ow). The walls needed repainted and carpet pulled up. The sewage pipe in the basment backed up and it flooded the entire basement. The appraiser redid an appraisal based off pics i took before I left and appraised it 12k higher from the time I left. It felt really good just knowing that information that they live exactly as they are, trash!

by Dignified 160 Posts
Posted on 6/26/2009 10:36 PM

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My husband moved out in January to work on an addiction and to become a better man so he could come back to his family. We found him a decent apartment, made sure he had everything he needed, filled his pantry, gave him my dishes I was saving for my daughter when she got her first apartment, etc. Found out in February he had been having an affair since Sept of last year.

I INSISTED on the house. Fortunately I'm in a position where I can keep it. However, as soon as the divorce is final and I do a little updating it is going on the market. I will use the equity for a new home, a new beginning.

I have had great difficulty knowing that the OW is sitting on my old couches, eating off my dishes, sleeping on the quilt we picked out together...etc. etc. etc. It has made me ill on several occasions. With the help of a counselor I am slowly moving past that.

I bought a new comforter and re-arranged MY bedroom. I have ripped out carpets, replaced flooring, landscaped and am slowly erradicating him from my life. My kids are older so I don't have to even communicate with him if I choose not to. Forget the dishes dear. Go find yourself ones that you love and will be a constant reminder of your new life. Start anew! Life is short! Enjoy every single moment!

by flutterby 820 Posts
Posted on 6/25/2009 10:23 AM

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well, he was going to give it back to the man who financed it for us about 8 years ago.....just for an update, he called again and told me that he is going to rent it out for a little while and maybe in several years, our daughter might want it. Payments are just a little over $500. and it's been paid on for 8 years so it's hard to let it go. He told me that he STILL loves me and wanted me to come back but it's way too late for that.

Gomezz, thankyou for reminding me about starting over with a better knowledge! I needed that today.

by deborah-trevino 1099 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 12:48 PM

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Hmmmmm Failed marriage I hate to be the one that breaks this to you missy but it did not fail your X failed you and the marriage. Why do you try to put the blame on the marriage reconize that root of the problem and let the failure go. I am divorced and that marriage did not fail but the person that was in the marriage failed the marriage and me. So you do what every other person does when somthing you try to do does not work out you start over with a better knownledge.

by Gomezz 725 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 11:45 AM

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Good riddence. Don't have to deal with him and the house again. So is it in your name too? What does "giving up on" actually mean? Selling or letting the house go into foreclosure?

by vlady 2087 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 11:37 AM

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Just another step of completely washing your hands of him, good for you!

I'd get your stuff out and leave the couch exactly where it's at!

by lifeinpurgatory 1777 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 9:47 AM

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Why do they fight so hard for something that they give up. My STBex did the same thing then turned around and ask me if I wanted it. I will never figure that one out.

by sjg 1754 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 9:34 AM

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I am so hopeing for the day my X gives up what was our house. It is in the country and a 1/4 mile from my parents (who hate him) and I find it so hard to spend any time at my parents because I can see his house and it hurts like hell to see her car in the driveway of the house that I loved but could not afford to keep. I wish for the harshest of winters so he is unable to work and looses his ass and is forced to sell it.

About the dishes, you wouldn't want the memories in your cupboard! New Start New Dishes.

by eclectic 268 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 7:33 AM

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