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'Mean Moms' Just for you Milly!  

I knew I had seen this somewhere before. I'd gotten something similar to it in email long ago, while I was preg with my daughter, and I decided I was absolutely going to be a "mean mom" just like mine was.
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All moms are mean for a reason. As we grow into adults we know why our moms were mean. Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates a parent, I will tell them:

I loved you enough...to ask where you were going, with whom, and what time you would be home.

I loved you enough...to insist that you save your money and buy a bike for yourself even though we could afford to buy one for you.

I loved you enough...to be silent and let you discover that your new best friend was a creep.

I loved you enough...to make you go pay for the bubble gum you had taken and tell the clerk, "I stole this yesterday and want to pay for it."

I loved you enough...to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.

I loved you enough...to let you see anger, disappointment, and tears in my eyes. Children must learn that their parents aren't perfect.


I loved you enough...to let you assume the responsibility for your actions even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart. But most of all,

I loved you enough...to say NO when I knew you would hate me for it. Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm glad I won them because in the end you won, too. And someday when your children are old enough to understand the logic that motivates parents, you will tell them.... Was your Mom mean? I know mine was.

We had the meanest mother in the whole world! While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have cereal, eggs, for lunch, we had to eat sandwiches. And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was different from what other kids had, too.

Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we were convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and what we were doing with them. She insisted that if we said we would be gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less

We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child Labor Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the beds, learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash and all sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie awake at night thinking of more things for us to do.

She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. By the time we were teenagers, she could read our minds. Then, life was really tough! Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn when they drove up. They had to come up to the door so she could meet them. While everyone else dated at 12 or 14 we had to wait until we were 16.

Because of our mother we missed out on lots of things other kids experienced. None of us have ever been caught shoplifting, vandalizing other's property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault. Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults. We are doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.

I think that is what's wrong with the world today. It just doesn't have enough mean moms.

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by delia_M  2861 Posts 

Posted on 6/22/2009 11:13 PM
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Thanks for reminding me in everyone of your posts that there is always "the other side". I never quite looked at it that way but my mother was the same. I am grateful to her for caring enough to sets boundaries and limits.
by Kay46514   229 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 3:18 PM
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Thank you Delia.  I've been struggling with this since I became a "custodial" parent.   It is so difficult to be the mean mom when he gets to be the part-time, fun dad.  I try and keep things in perspective.
by flutterby   829 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 3:01 PM
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Any time darlin', any time *hugs ya*
by delia_M   2861 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 2:33 PM
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Delia, Thank you....I so needed to see that...It is amazing when you need to find the strength or the motivation to keep doing, you find it....Today, you are my angel....
by militaryp   2952 Posts
Posted on 6/23/2009 9:22 AM
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