An update on my "Pathetic Meltdown" ... 

Hey paula! To further explain, our conversations were RATIONAL (!) to start with!!! Many of my fears were put to rest regarding our children and I felt assured that he was willing do the best/right things for the kids not just what worked out for him. And that we could work on this together to ensure our children lead happy, secure lives.

As far as our relationship goes, I'm pretty sure the marriage part is done & over.

My plans so far include volunteering my time 1-2 days per week. I feel as if I'm at a point where I need to step outside of myself and my life and focus on something else. The ex & I will be sharing custody of our children and we will each have them roughly half of the month. So, I just sat down and thought about what I could do with all of my newfound time. What would make my children proud of me? What would make me proud of me? And volunteering seems to be the best fit. Not only will I be helping out in my community, it would be a great networking opportunity and could lead to new friendships, perhaps even a new job!

So I remain, still today, feeling hopeful & positive for a great future!!

thank you for this update.  this all sounds great.   keep writing....it really does help to sort things out.

so, can you give us more details about this constructive conversation and where things are now and where you hope them to be?

also, do you have a goal list that you working towards?  you mention excerising etc....what are your short and long term goals?