Should I Move Out or Should She? 

I feel as if I am not the one in the wrong and that she should move out.

Am I blinded by selfishness? Anger? Emotions?

We have three kids (boy / girl twins that are 8 & a 6 year old daughter).  My wife is the one having the affair and although she insists she has stopped, I continue to confront her lies.  January and February were the most difficult months and the time when I decided enough was enough.  Since, we continue to put on a good show for family, friends, and those in the community (school / baseball & soccer fields).  We are civil with each other but with much awkward tension. We act more like roommates.   The stay home mommy has found a part-time job now working three nights a week.  This was something we had agreed to knowing that she will most likely be the one moving out.  Of course she is not earning enough to support herself month to month.  She continues to delay our most serious talks (what and how to proceed with the divorce process) because she will come across looking really bad.  She can't afford rent and does not want to live with her parents.  She will say that she wishes it all go away and regrets her decisions over the last two years, however, her actions tell a different story.

I don't feel that I should be the one to move out away from the kids, supporting payments on the house, car, and additional rent when I was not in the wrong.  Am I blinded & selfish?  What is best for me? The kids? 

We have agreed (thus far - actions will speak louder) to work together with the goal of keeping a healthy mommy & daddy relationship despite our deteriorating husband & wife relationship and I do have reason to believe we are capable of doing so. 

I suggested a July 1st move out date.  This will allow us the month of July to help the kids adjust before starting school Aug. 11.  

Should she move out or should I?