I read, I learned, I'm trying to move forward..... 

I haven't had much communication with stbx.  The second affair, the lies since then, and all that goes with it have made me unable to trust her.

Today I read a great article on this site Here's the link:

 http://www.divorce360.com/divorce-articles/after-divorce/love/should-you-trust-them-10-questions-to-ask.aspx?artid=535&page=2

It talks about boundaries.  I got a lot out of it myself.  I've had a real hard time trusting.  I have trouble trusting others, and myself as well.

I didn't really know why I was having a hard time.  I thought maybe I was just weak, or a bad judge of character.  I began to realize that I was fooled because I loved my stbx and naturally expected her to be faithful, because I was.

I was fooled because I ignored my gut.

Lesson learned.

I don't ignore my gut anymore.  In fact, I rely on it.  How about you?  If you were cheated, how did you get your trust back?  How long did it take?  and finally, how easily do you lose that trust in new friendships if something happens?

I've adjust my boundaries, that's for sure.  It has helped me a lot.  I hope this article (if you need it) helps you too!  Thanks!