Let's visit The Shack 

We didn't experience the death of a person, but the death of a relationship.  We all went through the grief process......denial, anger, sorrow, acceptance.  Has this horrible experience colored your relationships with others or with God?  I wondered how a loving God could let this happen to me!  What did I do to deserve all this pain and suffering?  I wanted to end it a few times (it's normal to think of such things in these situations) but my staunch Catholic upbringing reminded me of a one way ticket on the long black train to Hell.  Also, I couldn't have put my children and family through that.  The book reveals that while God doesn't orchestrate tragedies, He always works incredible good out of it.  We have to be open to hear what that is.

I lost 2 good friends over my divorce also.  I'm still not sure why....I'm ready to apologize to both of them ( and hope they reciprocate).  I need that peace of mind.

The Shack reveals God's love for us and explains how we should approach our relationships with others.  We put so many constraints on our relationships!  Love is supposed to be simple, but we fudge it up with guilt and rules and power struggles and lies.  How wonderful it must be to simply....love.  I wish, now, I could go back and be different with my husband.  On the other hand he would have to be different with me.  I wish I could start over and look at the world in a new light, see it through His eyes, with all the possibilities laid out before me.  Wait!  Maybe this is my 'do over'!  Your assignment, if you choose to accept it, is look at others you meet with new eyes.  Eyes that see to the soul of the person.  See their fears, pains, triumphs, the color of their heart.  I think that if this were possible, there would be more kindness in the world.

How wonderful this world would be if we could move beyond ourselves and just let the love flow in and out of us.....simply.