How my Mediator meeting went... 

Stbxh wanted to use a mediator....I know he got the name from his

"good friend", the girl he will now be moving in with next week, along with his other "good friend", a guy. They will be known as the 3 divorced musketeers....in my eyes. He is paying for it....I will run the paperwork by a lawyer friend before signing anything.

Anyway, had the meeting....went pretty smooth...although I know I am getting screwed....stbxh is claiming extreme poverty....yet he buys wacky camera equipment for 500.00 a pop....I believe he bought three items in the last week or two!! I am dealing w/ trying to keep a house that has negative equity to the tune of at least 75k...and pay for it myself...only asking him to kick in a bit for two years....he still hasn't agreed to that as I haven't gotten my modification paperwork yet, so I am not sure how much I would need.

I was having a bit of anxiety yesterday about this meeting, but it went off without any drama. I did find out that stbxh has been seeing a therapist for the last 4 months...and made an emergency visit last night just before the mediator meeting because I asked for a change in the asset list and he freaked out (over a goddamn tv!).  

I also requested that I get full custody of the dogs and that he cover half the grooming and vet bills each year. He agreed. Being the nice person I am, also told stbxh that he could come and see the dogs whenever he wanted (just to call first and arrange the day/time) and he said he was relieved that I said that and asked if he could also dogsit for them whenever I am away....which was nice...I am wary though. Don't know why....

Anyhow, we leave the mediator's and talk for a few minutes in parking lot and then go our separate ways. Me back home...him, I have no idea where.

I get home and there is a message on the answering machine. Lately it's just been a telemarketer or two, nobody really calls either of us on the home number anymore....

Well, lo and behold, it's a friend of stbxh's....a guy who must have gotten stbxh's new cell # and our home phone # confused...since he never calls the home number.

This is what I hear....."hey bro, it's me...listen we (him and his long term girlfriend...that's another story..lol) got tickets to see (famous raunchy comedian at a local comedy club) next weekend and I left a message on your facebook, but figured I would call you because the date is coming up soon.... thought it would be great if you could come with us and hey, I could finally get to meet the new chick I heard you're with now ...bla bla bla."

Well, that was another stab in the heart for me....but I figured I would hear something like this sooner or later, but it still hurt like hell to hear a friend of his (that I have known for almost 20 years) say something that made me feel like ....I don't know....an old shoe, or even worse... the "old chick"? Not even a "sorry to hear about you and zuki" or anything!!

I thought about it for a while and then I sent stbxh a text msg....."So, are u going to tell me about the "new chick" now? Or do I have to guess? :) " Yes, I put the smiley in there...

Stbxh replies back "I am at N's house (his guy good friend!) watching the game, weirdo! There is no chick....."

Oh, yes..right...I know the guy that called the home number tonight is tight with my stbxh's other friends and men are sometimes worse than women when it comes to gossip esp about who they are seeing, etc...so my stbxh has brought "new chick" around some of these guys.

Oh, and parting words after meeting with the mediator....from stbxh:

"I can't wait til this is all over and we can go back to being friends again...."

I just smiled......and silently started counting down the days til he is out of here....15 days!!

Hmmmm....let's see if I am right about just who the "new chick" is.....