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About Me 

I'm 43, born on 9/11, the economy really sucks, I've been living hand to mouth for over a year, before deserting me she put the house into foreclosure, opened a line of credit in my name, destroyed my credit, left me homeless while I was trying to finish college (hasn't helped), I'm in S.E. Michigan and the last I heard she had gone to Alpena, I can't pay a lawyer or anyone else to help me get a divorce, because my son is Autistic she has been receiving over $800 a month from the government, on top of food, medical, housing assistance and what ever else she has managed to get, the weather here has been bouncing between 30 degrees and 70 degrees daily, I have been trying to keep it together (only partially working), have had to walk up to 15 miles to get from point A to point B and back to my car (it's down for the count), even if I were offered a job out of city or state I have absolutely no way to get to it, and I know that I'm not alone with the suicidal thoughts...  Before anyone decides to follow through compare what I have and am going through to what your going through.  I am alone, miserable, lonely, sad, depressed, cold, emotionally and mentally a wreck, I built my entire life around my family, she maliciously took everything away, and what she couldn't take away; she threw away/made sure I couldn't save, I don't even know why...


 All of the above facts are true (yes, I can prove each and every one of them)


Now be honest...  how bad do you really have it?

by pen75  28 Posts 

Posted on 4/17/2009 2:23 PM
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I don't have much to suggest beyond repeating angie's and pixy's suggestions but I want to pass on warm hugs and prayers that things will work out for you .

You are an inspiration, having been struggling with such adversity you don't give up. Good luck dear.

by gemi   1124 Posts
Posted on 4/19/2009 3:14 PM

Hi pen Im so sorry to hear that you are in such a frustrating position and that your in this vicious cycle. I wish you all the best and ill say a little prayer for you. But I do have a little bit of advice, I have read somewhere that you can get a mailbox (NOT a P.O. box) so you can have an address without actually having a home. I think this could potentially help the problem with not getting hired because you do not have an address. Ill google it and see if I can get the right info for you and come back and post that. I really do wish you all the best and am sorry to hear about your situation.
by rebec311   609 Posts
Posted on 4/19/2009 3:13 PM

     Thank you for the ideal, unfortunately in Michigan it is essentially the Department of Human Services.  On the chance that there was something I didn't know about I did check it out;

Unless I missed something, the only help I can get from them is if I have a job or have my kids with me, which goes back to part of the problem I've been having.
It's possible that I missed something, but all I came across was ways for businesses/organizations to join or ask for grants, links for weatherization (but I don't even have a home), and things of that nature.

But Thanks again, I do appreciate you taking the time.
by pen75   28 Posts
Posted on 4/19/2009 3:01 PM

Pen, I know in Pa, there are agencies to help people in your situation.  They are called community action programs here.  They offer help with job hunting, housing, counseling and other things.  Please check for something like that where you live.  I  live in an extremely urban area and those things are available.....not just in the bigger cities.   Please check.
by angielou   1543 Posts
Posted on 4/18/2009 5:29 PM

Yes I have tried, I am in a very bad place; but it isn't of my own making.  My biggest problem/challenge is that I am unable to do anything until I find employment, but its impossible to find a job without a phone number and address.  even if by some miracle I do get offered employment, if it isn't with in walking distance I am still stuck because my car is down and I have no way to fix it without a job... Since she did this, my entire life seems to be a catch 22.  I've tried shelters, churchs, unemployment, unsucessfully asking the state for help...  the economy continues to get worse, more and more people are losing their jobs, the shelters are turning people away, churchs are trying to help with the overflow...  its pretty bad when I can't even get a job at a car wash or dog kennel. 
Some kind of job would be a step in a positive direction, but it feels like I've been beat down over and over; the only hope I can see for myself is currently being kept alive via life support...

I do try to keep up with any suggestions that get offered, but I can't check it everyday; I have to "borrow" an internet connection just to get online...  If you have any ideals that I haven't come up with I would really appreciate hearing them.

Thanks for taking the time to write and listening to me complain...
by pen75   28 Posts
Posted on 4/17/2009 10:32 PM

hi pen, I went back and read your other posts and really feel your pain.  I'm sorry you have to go through this.    although in all your posts we lay out your struggles and problems but you have been given some really great and very practical advice so I am wondering what you have done to help your situation?   have you taken any of the advice and suggestions from the others on this site?    I'm just wondering so I don't repeat the same type of support if you don't want it.  

What can we do to support you?
by pixy   100 Posts
Posted on 4/17/2009 3:38 PM

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