Uncomfortable? They are uncomfortable? What about me.... 

Oh, the craziness continues....we have been civil toward each other for several weeks....so I knew something was going to happen soon!

Tonight, stbx tells me that I need to stop making his parents and his sister uncomfortable when they talk to me! I ask what makes them "uncomfortable"? I kind of knew....as I had just spoken to his mother last week.

Item Number 1:

Stbxh: "Well, you made a comment about my new living arrangements to my mother! When she asked you about us separating, you said ...this isn't a separation - we are filing for divorce, he is moving out and it shouldn't take more than 2-3 months once the paperwork is filed. I hope he will be happy now that he is going to be renting a house on the water with his 2 "good" friends (1 male and 1 female) and that it should be an interesting menage a trois.... and now he will have a built in nudie model for his glamour photography!" (He has photographed her for the last couple of years quite a few times....she had a boob job last summer (just before she got divorced)....he had her over to photograph her in our pool....didn't I say I put up with a lot of crap from stbxh over the years? That was just one instance, of many....)

Me: Yup, guilty as charged.

Item Number 2:

I also said to his Mom "Isn't it interesting that everyone he has met in the last 2 or 3 years are all his "good" friends? I wonder if these good friends will stick around when/if he runs out of money.....". She really didn't have a response to that, and I then said "sorry, I shouldn't have said anything to you,  I forgot this is your son I am talking about." She tells me "I just listen...I say nothing to nobody." Well, not true, because she told my stbxh what I said to her. Deep down, I knew she would say something to him....and I guess, subconsciously, I wanted her to! I know I was being a bit childish, but I have put up with so much crap from him, that the reality of what's happening to my life is really starting to make me crazy and I wanted to "hit back"! :)

Item Number 3:

Stbxh: "Then you told my sister that "the family will all have a great place to go this summer...to my big house on the waterfront."

Me: Yup, guilty again! In fact, I said this to her (and her kids and husband) in front of stbxh....  

Stbxh: "My whole family all really love you and want to maintain a relationship with you...but you make them uncomfortable...when you talk about me!" I sat there silent...right away, he puts words in my mouth.."but you probably don't even care about maintaining a relationship with them!"

Hmmm...Let's go over what's happening here...He is walking away after almost 20 years - leaving me trashed financially and waiting for the sheriff to come and evict me, along with my 3 dogs!

So, now I make his family uncomfortable...well, how do they think he has made me feel the last few years, not to mention the last 7 months of hell!!!

Right now, I am really upset.....so much so, that I just emailed my sister in law and cancelled our plans to take her kids bowling this weekend!! I guess it was too much to hope for - trying to maintain a relationship with his family, it's just too difficult.