STBX has been diagnosed as an Agressive Narcissist & Sociopath 

Hi - I saw your post to my wall and decided to answer you here - as long as he has an attorney and you don't - he is ALWAYS going to come out on the winning end of things. You are going to have to find the funds somewhere to retain someone, It is the ONLY way this is going to end.

His attorney's knowledge of how the system works and your LACK of knowledge - is what is causing you this issue. It isn't that the court is in favor of the "bad ones" - it is just in this case, the "bad one" has the legal advantage being represented.

Just go to your my stuff page and scroll down to your wall. Someone else will have to answer the cut and paste. I haven't tried that yet.

Can I cut and paste a prior post to a new post such as under Legal?

How do I view messages on my wall? I am new to this. Thank you very much :)

Go to groups above and then legal and click on ask a question. That should do it. I left a message on your wall.

How do you post on the Legal page?

I meant that my STBX has proven to the courts Not to be a credible person.

I live in Ventura County ( California). I have been legally separated since 06/18/07. My STBX has had 6 lawyers each one being a bigger jerk. Lawyers 1-5 quit, and no. 6 is harassing and mean. My STBX has proven to the Judge that he is not a uncredible person. Trying to divorce an Aggressive Narcissist is a nightmare in the family court system. I was ordered to pay him temp support 10/07 - Jan 08 - he told court he was uneducated & disabled. Then I found out that he was working the entire time, making more than I  and collecting Support from me. The court stopped the support payments then he was fired from his employer for lying, cheating and falsifying his skills and knowledge. Then he went back to court and they gave him more support. He then was collecting 1800 per mo for support, 1800 per mo on our home that was in foreclosure that he was renting out plus unemployment of 1800. He is also getting a house free of rent from the local mormon church plus food from their food bank. I am not sure how to get this divorce over. He wont end it. He just continues to harass, stalk and annoy me. I don't have a lawyer - out of funds after almost 2 years of trying to get divorced with a lawyer and paying support plus medical to my STBX.

I know a little about NPD and almost nothing about a sociopath. My ex was a passive aggressive NPD in a very passive way. I can't even imagine what you have had to deal with. The best book I have read on NPD is Malignant Self Love Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin. I consider it the instruction manual on my ex. It is dogeared, highlighted and underlined on nearly every page. It does have some references to sociopath in it.

What is the hold up on your divorce? If you have total custody and a permanent restraining order there shouldn't be a legal reason why you don't have your divorce. If it's leaving somone with his probelms and moving on with your life. Think of your children first and do what is necessary for a life away from your ex/stbx.

I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I know how hard it was for me to leave but I had to for my own sanity and he had married someone else. I couldn't and wouldn't stay under those conditions. If you need what little help I can give write on my wall or D360 mail. Anything legal post under legal and spaz will answer. She is an atty. who volunteers onthis site.
Take care and I wish you much luck.

is the state your living in a no fault divorce go that route you got custody of the kids so you can get divorced that way.

I dont know, but I am in a similar situation. I don't know what the diagnosis of my soon to be ex will be, but I have asked for a psych consult.My brother is a psychiatrist and he totally says my husband has some serious personality disorder. I know my husband is crazy. But the problem is he presents himself so well publicly. (well not so much anymore, he has started to slip). He is very intelligent and can fool the best of them. What people don't know is that he can barely brush his teeth at home, won't bathe until reminded to, and other sanitation problems. He is trying to get custody of my child. He believes he talks to the unseen, spiritual beings that no one else can see, he is chosen to do something, whatever it is, all I can see he was doing was sleeping with another woman. I am hoping the psych consult will help me get custody. So my point is I guess I dont have one, I dont know what to do about someone who is so mentally crazy. I'm trying to figure it out myself...sorry not much help..

oh boy, im not much help with this one either but sending you supportive thoughts and warm hugs...glad you were able to free yourself and your child from him... good luck...
yeah...trisha will know..  ((X))

Damn. I dunno, but I'd be asking Trisha about NPD. She knows a ton.