CRYING TONIGHT 

Please read on my comment to; How can one just walk away.

Sorry, I did not see this before. What happened? Just grew apart? Was it a few good years?  Wipe away those tears, learn the lesson and get yourself out there.

Did you EVER read the books ?  :-)

Cher its ok to cry, sometimes crying takes a little of that pain away thats dwelling up inside. I know, cuz I have cried everyday for the past 7 days, why? I just miss my life that I had with him...so cry!

Hey CherB, yep, I must agree with others, that sucks, but you stood-up and made a change, See your strength here?

 

You cried, not a bad thing, just a release of emotion, maybe a big release huh?

So, go ahead, have a big-ol-cry, because when you’re done, you’ll stand-up once again! Seriously.

 

I understand, still mustering my strength, (v-day: nothing, I love yous: none), this fixing thing (from me screwing up) is hard,

If I fail to fix my mistakes, then I will probably cry too (but, I’ll be holding a hammer and nails so I can say I hit my thumb! –it’s a guy thing, what can I say?) but hopefully, I can pick myself up like you do! Thanks.

You're not alone, Cher. I'm feeling it pretty strongly today myself. Should go out today, do something. Go someplace you've never been to before. A small hole in the wall diner or something.  Just get out of the house.

I'm feeling this way today. Very sad. Don't really want to do anything but lie around and pity myself. But I know I can't do that. I once wrote this tune that I never recorded about loneliness. A verse in it goes something like this "Loneliness an evil form of darkness, will grab you and slowly steel your life. It will cut you and eat away your feelings. Kill it before it steels your life". So don't let it eat at you. Let it out and bawl like there is no tomorrow. I'm told it will just make you stronger in the end. Hope that was helpful.

Cherbear, my heart goes out to you and know how you feel. I have not seen my stbx since June 2008 but some little thing will trigger memories which bring on the sadness and loneliness again
My prayers and thooughts are with you and am sure after a good night's sleep you will be back to your wonderful self.

8 months my dear is still fresh, of course it hurts when we have lonely days, sad reminders, holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries! You will continue to move forward and find this happening less and less. Just remember you are not alone, we are here for you... {{{HUGS}}} Karen

Cher~'
I think thhis is very normal to feel....I mean you are only 8 mos. into this.....Thats pretty frsh still...Its a year today for me, and its fresh! Hang in there sweetie

Yeah, I think it's normal. I've felt varying degrees of it for people I've dated along the way. If you're in a long term relationship it's hard to shake, but you will.  You've just got to keep up what you're doing: living for you and your kids.  Pretty soon you'll replace the memories, and you'll be able to move one.  Don't worry about rushing yourself though.  It'll happen when you're ready.

Cher we all go though this. It is very normal, we all want to be loved and to have some one care about you. Even as bad as it was for me I still will miss her from time to time but I want to move on and find someone that wants to be with me. That what you need to do, you deserve to have someone love you and care about you and want to be with you. Till then you have all of us to care about you (c:

*hugs ya*

I just want to thank each and everyone of you who commented on my post.. it is really nice to know that i have friends like you to help me through my ups and downs.. i have lots of growing to do and i know that i can count on all of my friends here to help me... i just want to say
(((( thank you))))) for being there for me...

cherbear

O cherbear hang in there kid,it sucks,i just saw my girls last Friday and gave then gifts.I made a card for them and showed my sister,she started to cry,I said it was not meant to be this way to see my kids.You are tough,I see ya on line but I have not IM you,I am in a transition,you are a good person it`s his loss,hug your girls instead.

yes cher its normal and i feel your pain too!i wished i could take it all away from u but i cant.me and my bf are still together but its like we are broke up!we was riding down the road and my bf never even talked to me.he treats me like we are just pals.i know the hurt cher.i hope it gets better for u .i wish u the best cher. shy

I'm so sorry Cher.  You will feel better and one day, you'll move on and find someone else...perhaps someone who knows how to Salsa! :)

Oh Cher, we all have days like this.  Thinking what we lost was better than being alone.  Trust me, it's not.  And we'll find better.

Sorry for your sadness. And you're right these feelings are intensified around holidays and special days like birthdays. I wish we could all ease this feeling for you.

Cher, I don't know your story and I am relatively new on this site but I see your posts all the time and everyone seems to adore you so I just want to remind you that you're not alone. I know it's not much of a consolation when you're aching for that one person but what you're feeling is so absolutely natural and so completely normal... I just got out of a long unhappy marriage. It had been dead for many, many years, so the divorce was just a legality, yet it still hurts to be alone, and I suppose with time it will hurt even more before it can start healing. I think, even when one is unhappy, as long as there is that other person, there is hope, even if against all logic, and then you lose even that, which hurts bad, but that's the only way to start rebuilding your life... I'm having a good cry with you, Cher, but later we wipe our faces, blow our noses and stand proud and strong, even if mascare is still smudged, ok? (X)

Yes dear it is normal.  I hate nights like that. I also have times that I am overcome with loneliness.  Let the tears flow, they do help.  Tomorrow will be a better day.  {{big hugs}} Take care of you.

You are not alone in your feelings.  It is hard to predict when and how strong those feelings will be when the come. 

Just a few weeks ago I had convinced myself that I should make one last attempt to convince her to stop this insanity.  Luckily I had to take care of an issue with her and she reminded me how long gone her love is.  She showed me her selfishness again, and I came to my senses. 

So no matter how much it hurts and you know that its over you will miss him at times.  The key for me has been to figure out how to remind myself of all that she has done to hurt me.  Then I don't miss her as much.

Sometime when we are in these moods we have to let go of the what was, and what the could have been's.... No one can pick you up but you. You are a smart woman. Tell yourself it's time to pick up and move on. Be strong...Get Happy.!

Think of it this way...Someone better will come along, and you just have to give yourself the boost you need so that time will come along. You can get through this.

Oh Sweet Cher...It is so normal to have the feelings that you are having.  I am so sorry that you are going through this again.  Take a deep breath and know that you will get through this.  Thank God that tomorrow is a new day.  Do one thing tomorrow that will make you smile.  Take Care.

It is very normal.  I made it through the "holidays"  kept waiting to here it, but it didn't happen.  Looking back I am glad, would have just prolonged the pain.  Let the tears flow, they are actually theraputic.  We are all here for you and understand all too well.

Yes, cherbear it is. It's like going through a divorce again without lawyers and court dates. I'm sorry this is happening again.  You are a good person and deserve a happy life with someone who loves you. It will come to you in time. You just haven't found the right person yet.

I know, honey, I Know!  This is what I do when I get sad and miss him.....I think about all the bad things that we were together.  Then I think of the good things I have now.  Things I wouldn't have if he was still here.  I can't tell you that I don't have my bad days....but I also can't tell you how much happier I am now.  I don't think I really knew how unhappy I was until he was gone!

I know you're crying tonight, but after a good night's sleep, you'll feel better tomorrow!  Amazing what a good night's sleep will do and what the light of day will do!

I'm thinking of you!  Keep strong!