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Cut the cord already! Get out of my dang head!! 

So I've long ago been over my ex-husband.  He's just one of those things in my life that I just have to accept is in it......sort of like a mortgage payment.  I don't really like having to pay it every month, but I like living in my house.  My ex is the same.  Don't really like seeing him, but I like it when I get a break from my kids so it works.  But the ex boyfriend........well that is another story.  You see I spent 5 years in a long-distance relationship.  It probably wasn't the healthiest relationship on earth, but it was one I really enjoyed, and was probably addicted to.  It ended over two years ago.  I really think I'm over it.  At least most of the time I do, and then every now and again, something will happen to stir it all up again.  I ask myself, OMG, is this normal???  I'm supposed to know what I'm doing in such arenas.  So today, yes, Feb. 24th, I get a Valentine card in the mail from him.  Only it isn't a Valentine card, just a blank one that has dancers on the front (I love dancing) and a Valentine's message.  He asks if I would be his Valentine because he hasn't found one yet??? Okay, so my heart took a LEAP!  Then a nose-dive.  WHAT???  NOW???  WHY???  The tears started.........then the anger started.  Then I finally realized he must have been in a weak moment, and instead of doing what we women do, Drink and Dial, he had the silly idea to put it into writing.  I think I'm going to just ignore it.  Pretend I never got it..........and unless he reads this entry, I won't have to open up that can of worms.  It's over.  I'm okay with it being over.  And if he does read this..............well................if he's serious, he'll say so again, this time after getting on a plane! 
by DK-Simoneau  189 Posts 

Posted on 2/24/2009 6:43 PM
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I think all of us say things to the ex in weak moments.  Me, not so much.  What I want to say would be indifferent, so I say nothing.

Whatever his meaning was, you need to know that you matter.  If it's going to work out then it will.  But do you want to be in a relationship where you aren't the top priority?

I know I won't settle again.
by Kitty7470   2621 Posts
Posted on 2/24/2009 8:59 PM
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