My Wonderful Spouse...The Gift That Keeps On Giving 

One of the most pleasant thing I have done in the last 11 months of pain was telling a creditor that he does not live her anymore and here is his number.  Felt good.  Poor decisions he will make are now what he has to deal with on his own.

I am sorry that you are in the place financially where you are.  I think you have a good plan.  Paula is right the bill is symbolic.  The bill shows what type of person he is.  Stay strong!

While we were together I had to pawn my wedding ring - a ring that he bought with my money.  I replaced that ring (again with my own money) with a cubic zirconia one so friends wouldn't ask questions.  Now I find out about him purchasing a 'real' ring for his girlfriend.  I recently received notice that he wants to hurry up the court proceedings and has set a June 1st status hearing - which is fine with me.  It's obvious now why he's in such a hurry....I expect the girlfriend is eager to get this 'prize' to the alter as soon as possible.  Problem is....neither of them seem to have read the paperwork I initiated and filed with the court.  I am seeking a 'legal separation' - not a dissolution of marriage.  I wasn't about to make it easier for my husband...if he wanted a full divorce, I figured he could pay for it himself.  My court costs are free because I'm now on food stamps.  He, on the other hand, has income coming in, and has to pay for everything out of pocket.  I haven't yet notified any of his creditors when I get notices like that which I received today...perhaps I should start letting them know of his whereabouts....reveal his address and phone number.  Perhaps his girlfriend will finally discover just what her 'prize' is really like.  Any other suggestions?  

Thank you for all of you kind comments and support.  I'm afraid I'm taking much more than I'm giving here on 360, and I appreciate all of the help from everyone here.  Again...thank you. (:

 

Yeah, my stbx's mail is still coming here too. He doesn't want to change his address until he has his apartment with the girlfriend. I just throw it in a pile on the counter and if he comes to get it fine, if he doesn't, then it will sit there. He still have belongings here after all this time. He took every tool in the house so I can't even hang a picture if I wanted to because it was so important he put that in the storage shed he rented....oh, i just need to stop....it's here until the divorce is final, after that, he will either come get it or it will sit in the yard. I have been fair about it.

I know where you're coming from.......my ex has been spending more time with our son, but the gf and her child are always there.  The thing that gets to me is how he takes "her" out - goes to movies (ones that he would never ever go to with me cause they were "tough" enough for a guy), go out to dinner, picnincs, etc. you get my point.  All of this in the presence of my son.  He would never do stuff like that with me and our children......guess he thinks he is impressing the gf!  Well, I hope it's working!  Loser!  I too get his mail which I don't understand.....we haven't been together in over 2 years and I have even moved to a different town!  So, I just stick it back in the mail and Label "does not live here"!  LOL

I'm sorry that his bill came to your home.  He bought something that he can't afford, but went ahead and did it anyway.  If he was reckless financially before, it should just drive that point home.

I'm the same as Paula.  When bills come to my home for my stbx I give them his phone number and address.  Makes us both happy (the creditor and me)

i'm sorry this happened, but at the very least you know you are no longer having to live under his fiscal irresponsibility anymore...and it's obvious the next one in line will.

i know it was painful to see that bill....but it's also very symbolic. 

i still get bill collector calls for my ex...four years later.  at first i was annoyed by this constant reminder, and now i laugh. he hasn't changed a bit.   but before those calls would mean me taking out my checkbook and then having a fight with him...now they just mean me laughing while i give them his address.