Diamond Earrings 

I just found out he bought his mistress diamond earrings last spring. Sure they are cheap, low quality earrings, but for a man crying poor and not paying the mortgage or any other bills he managed to buy diamonds!

I don't think anything shocks me anymore. I am amazed that he bought almost identical earrings to the ones he bought me for my birthday 6 years ago (because I asked for them). He bought them from the same jeweler he bought my earrings from. Everything he does for her is recycled from things he did and bought for me. Nothing original!

From now on, every time his lawyer tries to claim that my STBX can't afford child support and his 50% of the mortgage or 50% of our bills and still have money left over to live on I am pulling out a copy of the receipt for the diamond earrings.

Those earrings, along with several other purchases, is why he refused to give me his bank statements for the spring of last year. He is legally obligated to give me the statements as part of discovery and he's been refusing to provide them.

I've been creating spreadsheets and reports to show how I've been responsible and trying to pay all our bills on my salary alone last year because at the PL hearing the master accused me of wasting money on a PI (I had to prove adultery and that my STBX wasn't spending his custody time with our son so I could get full custody...which I got so it definitely wasn't a waste of money). I have spreadsheets showing all the bills I paid and he's spent his salary on his affair, airplane tickets, vacations, jewelery.

So what did I do when I found out about the earrings? I got my hair done, bought some kick ass new clothes, and bought some make-up. Oh, and I got portraits taken of my new look with my son. I haven't had pictures of us taken in a year. I feel great now.

I also have an appointment with a jewler to have my wedding ring, engagement ring, my diamond earrings, and her diamond earrings turned into a pendant. I'm demanding those earrings in the divorce. She is not wearing diamond earrings (I don't care that they are cheap!) while I am walking around with a torso full of scars from my gall bladder surgery which was caused from the stress of the divorce and my STBX putting us into bankruptcy. That pendant is going to remind me of the hell that I went through and how I survived and will thrive! If I can get through this I can get through anything. This has been a year of pure hell.

I try not to think about the man I've been with for 13 years because it's so inconceivable to me that this is the same person. Our 10 year wedding anniversary is in a few months. I always dreamed of a big anniversary party with our children, friends and family to celebrate. I can't believe I might be divorced by then. It's just crazy.