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Update on me 

It's been awhile since I posted.  I've been quite down lately, the last three months have been unpleasant.  I have not seen my kids since the 27th of September, their slut mother has has broken the rules about my legal time with my kids which is a pathetic Saturday from 7pm to Sunday 7pm, and Monday and Wednesday from 3pm to 7pm.  The egg donor and I disagreed where to swop the kids (she uses the kids as messengers, she is not supposed to) so as a result of this disagreement she has not brought my kids to me on Saturday nights and has told my kids not to come to my house after school on my legal days.  I hate her so much. 

As of the 25th of October I have a new attorney, my old one, damn I'm so mad at her, I gave her several thousand dollars and I am not happy where we stand.  My new attorney has restored my hope and trust, I feel much better now.  She has started off on a good note.  Wow, can you believe that she accepts credit cards as payment?  Alright, I was (before my first meeting with her) how am I going to give this lady a retainer?  Thank you Jesus for that. 

 

I know that I should have posted, I know you all are really wonderful and helpful, but I was so very sad, depressed, completely out of hope.  I was in a rut and did not have to strength to get out of it.  I feel stronger and more hopeful now, I trust that my glorious day will soon be upon me.  Just give me my kids 50% of the time and give me my fair share of the house (money wise) and possessions and that is all I want.  She can keep the house of whores, I don't want ever to go back there. 

 

I'm going to start focusing on positive thoughts and that things are going to get better for me, damn it.  To my stbx, her uglier than sin man, and her damn parents I say "Get behind me Satan"  Amen

by Betrayedforaram  451 Posts 

Posted on 11/4/2009 8:53 AM
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I am so sorry you're in such pain.  It will get better.
by stCheshirecat   302 Posts
Posted on 11/7/2009 12:34 AM
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hang in there brother.  better days are ahead.
by oldfashionfool   116 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 11:03 PM
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The anger, the depression the hope, the fear and solitude--it all comes and goes in waves.  Right now I hate him.  Hate him for ruining my life, the lives of our kids, our futures.  I hate him for my having to work two jobs and my kids having to bounced from house to house.  I hate him, that all he needed to do was stay off the porn sites and keep his pants zipped, but he couldn't even do that.  I hate him for his neglectful way of raising our kids and killing my dog.  I hate him for putting the love of money above his children's health.  I hate that he is always able to find some craigslist piece of trash who is willing to have sex with him and stroke his ego so he can feel like a great dad.  I hate him.  I absolutely hate him.  If he were drowning, I would probably hold his head under rather than save him.  It would be so much easier that way. 

I know I will get past it.  I know that with time and counseling and family and friends I will heal and maybe someday will move past the hate to indifference.   Meanwhile I keep reading so I know I am not alone.
by Iam   480 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 3:19 PM
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I love your sense of humor..I call mine the sperm donor..and my stbx is satan so yours must be his sister.  

I wish you luck with the new attorney for you and your children.  Think positive...I am going thru the same with the house and possessions ..so I know how long and hard that road can be.  I admire you for keeping up the fight for your time with the children...you will reap rewards in the long run.  You are stronger..you have shown that.  Take care and keep posting!
by Joyful   239 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 1:54 PM
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I'm glad you posted.  I was just yesterday wondering about you and another member then I sign on and see you blogged and the other left me a note so I'm glad to see you both, I was really wondering since you were so all over the map here then gone.

I hate to hear when kids get caught in the middle of divorces, they're the victims and can affect them for life.

I hope that your new attorney can assist you in getting your legal rights to your children.

Keep your head up my friend.
by lifeinpurgatory   1830 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 11:40 AM
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You have a wicked sense of humor in spite of it all :-) 

It saddens me to see ex spouses hurt each other. Why, I will never understand.  I was left with 3 dozen donuts  last Saturday. I was in charge of the snacks. It was an early game, 8:30AM.  It was cold...ok, cold for Houston, 49 degress. I showered and off I went.  I showed up to the park. Games had been cancelled. I cried all the way home. Why the cruelness....I will never know.

So your ex doesn't let the kids come over.  Sounds like a big "bruja"...witch.  I really think that when we hurt another human being, whether it is an ex spouse or anyone else there is karma to contend with.  

Take care of yourself meanwhile. Let your new lawyer deal with it.

Best.



by vlady   2123 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 11:10 AM
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Good morning Betrayedforaram,
It sounds as though you have been to hell and back. Stay positive, (I know that is hard) things will get better. You are in my thoughts and prayers, good luck. Donna
by donna313   41 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 11:00 AM
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Hello Betrayedforaram,
I'm sorry it has been a hellish 3 months for you.  I have no words of wisdom or revelations on how to make it thru this horrible thing called divorce and post divorce life!

But, if it makes you feel any better, your post gave me a great chuckle.  You have a funny sense of humor, a wicked way with words!  Egg donor, and uglier than sin man - too funny!

In the end sometimes, that's all you can hope for....a good laugh and another soul who understands what you are going thru.

Sounds like things will get brighter just because of your sheer willpower.
by tete   95 Posts
Posted on 11/4/2009 9:17 AM
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