Communication in Marriage, Possible ?? 

The mental connection in a marriage is most important, in that it fuels the union for decades.  I have observed in a restaurant several couples.  I could tell the ones who were married and those that were not.  The married ones never talked and the ones dating were talking non-stop.  It appears that in marriages spouses tend to not listen or even hear what the other is saying.  In this atmosphere couples grow apart, and this process may take years to reach a point of no return.  Could this be the reason why so many divorce?

The mental connection must be maintained and renewed often.  A spouse is a best friend, a companion, a confident, a lover, everything.  Sex is only one small component of the marriage, but it is very wholesome.  It is a shame some place sex as the most important element in a marriage, when really it is not. There is so much that constitutes a successfull marriage.  It certainly isnot like mixing sugar crystals of lemon into a pitcher of water, it just isn't that simple.  It takes quality time, work, energy, thoughtfullness, creativity and the occasional surprise.

I wish that I could turn the clock back and know what I know now.  Most certainly I wouldnot be writing you these words.  Divorce really helps us to examine our past actions and areas of neglect.  But, we can't change the past, but we can change the way we view it.  I hope I will become a better person in the end of all of this.  Learning from our mistakes has never been a valid choice, as history repeats itself over and over and over.  I will try my hardest to learn and make necessary changes to become a better man.  After all, things don't change, people change.