The hole just keeps getting deeper..... 

Stbxh finally emailed me in response to my second email to him, regarding an important issue that needs to be taken care of. 

It took him 3 weeks to reply to my email and texts because he was "out of the country for a bit" and had no cell service and limited internet connectivity. No reason why he was out of the country...was it work? Vacation? Not even the name of the country.....I am not sure I even believe him! He might just be hiding out at his new place.....having a nervous breakdown. I think the party out at the "frat" house is long over!

My reasons for contacting him were twofold:  Received the car insurance quote this month...and it seems I have to pay my car insurance company for a car he returned (it was a lease) but did not surrender the plates to DMV for - back in July! He states he doesn't understand why the insurance company cares about this.  Well, because it's state law and also because they are registered in my name! Never mind the fact that he knew I would be getting a refund because the car insurance was paid up until 10/29. Well, that never happened...but what the hell, it's only a couple of hundred dollars, right? That is the way his mind works.... 

I took care of all the car related issues during our marriage, along with pretty much everything else, and because he was so hot to trot to get his new car over the summer, rather than ask me to go with him to DMV, he just got new plates and for whatever reason wants to keep the vanity plates.  I dunno, maybe hang them on a wall?? 

If I don't pay the insurance and/or turn in the plates w/i the next week, I will be charged 8.00 a day, and then after a certain period of time...my license will be suspended!!!! Aargghhh.....will this never end with him screwing things up for me...and costing me money?

The second reason, I want to finalize the divorce paperwork.

His response was "I would love to finalize the divorce .... but I don't have any money and can't come up with the remaining balance owed to the mediator...can you?" 
Said he hasn't received any paychecks since he moved out (he owns a business w/ 2 partners) and is worse than broke and is hanging on by a thread....which I can believe because of the phone calls/letters from his credit card co's that are coming to the house.

Why, if he isn't receiving any money from his business, is he not out looking for a job???? Four months without any money coming in??? What has he been living on? Credit card advances? Borrowing money from his family? Selling off his beloved musical instrument collection? His photography equipment? 

Well, I replied to his email with a request that he call me (I am getting a little tired of the emails and texts) when he "returns" tomorrow evening....but I am not holding my breath for that to happen.  I know he is afraid to talk to me...and he is definitely afraid to actually meet with me in person.


Makes me sad to realize how far stbxh has fallen...into the hole he himself has dug.