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Divorce and Suicide: Are you at risk? 

As horrible as my divorce was, I never considered ending it all. As a mother of four, I knew I had to be there for my kids and deep down I had faith that eventually the pain would come to an end and my divorce would be over. However, some people who are in "divorce hell" right now do not feel hopeful and actually consider taking their own lives.

 

I had never thought about his before until I received an email from a woman who has lost all hope. Her divorce is not going well. Her husband is abusive, controlling and seems to get away with everything, including disobeying court orders. I have heard this same story many times before, but what struck me was how this woman indicated that she just could not go on any longer and felt that things would never get better. She is in despair and feels hopeless.

 

If you are going through a terrible divorce and feel like justice will never be served, that your ex will win and leave you with nothing, please know that no divorce lasts forever. I know how much pain you are in right now and how hard it is just to get up everyday and face the nightmare of your divorce. You are emotionally drained and have every right to be depressed. But please have faith. Things will turn around for you.

 

Sometimes in our darkest hours we feel like we can no longer go on. The pain is just too much to bear. Life seems cruel and unfair. Especially if it appears your spouse is getting the upper hand and "winning". But you have to believe that eventually the truth will prevail and justice will be served.

 

In my own divorce, it seemed like my ex would never be held accountable for his actions. A year went by without him paying alimony and child support. And then, suddenly, the tides turned and he was sent to jail for a month. The judge finally saw through his antics and my divorce turned around. 6 months later we were able to settle our divorce, something I thought would never happen.

 

 So please hang in there and know that many people have walked down the same road you are on. We have came out of the darkness and into the light. Our lives are now better than they were before. This can happen for you too, you just have to hold on and have faith that everything will be okay.

 

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by Christina-Rowe  298 Posts 

Posted on 1/21/2009 10:43 PM
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Unfortunately I have had the dis-pleasure of having to deal with suicide many times. For anyone considering this, it is not worth it. I have witnessed what it does to the family that is left behind and has to deal with the pain and problems as a result of this tradgedy.
If anyone is considering this, please seek help to deal with the problems. Any problem can be worked through, and there are brighter days ahead.
by Dadof2   1465 Posts
Posted on 1/21/2009 11:40 PM
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Thanks for posting this, it gives people out there hope that are gong thru a tough divorce right now.  Honestly - since I like to speak so candidly on here - when my ex first asked me for a divorce and I found out about his cheating on me - I seriously thought about taking a bunch of pills and ending my life.  I felt crushed, betrayed, you name it I felt it and I couldn't stop thinking about the hurt he caused me and didn't have any remorse over it either.  I dwelled too much on the pain I was going thru and sunk into my lowest point of depression I had ever sunk in my life and did contemplate suicide.  But the thing that brought me out of it was my 2 kids and the fact that I don't want him raising my boys after I'm gone becuz he'd end up screwing that up too along with our marriage.  The other thought was - I don't want to give him the satisfaction becuz that would just make everything easier on him in the end, and harder for my family to take.  So I basically talked myself out of doing this and I also sought help from my pastor at my church too.  I'm glad I did becuz I'm alot better now with my feelings and emotions and I'm so glad I'm here for my boys.  There is a light at the end of the tunnel for all the people who are starting to go thru the divorce process, it will get better as each day passes by, you just need to stay strong and seek support from family, friends, and even divorce support groups out there too.  Your life is worth it so keep fighting!! :)
by freedom   1011 Posts
Posted on 1/21/2009 10:53 PM
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