Feeling a lot of anxiety  

I would have tolerated anything from my ex - I am probably lucky he left.  You do get over obsessing about them- but it takes a lot of time.  My ex truly thought he would have women throwing themselves at him once he was available.  Well, guess what?  Not too many women are interested in a middle-aged idiot with no money, nothing.  He is with a "friend" he's known for years; my kids say she's the only one who's interested in him.  My kids say this!  Ironically, Mr. "you don't take care of me enough" is stuck with a woman who uses him to take care of her!  He watches her dog (he hates dogs) frequently, takes the dog in his car (he used to get upset if our toddlers were sick and vomitted in his car), now my daughter says it smells like dog, and takes her dinner, which HE cooks, when she is done teaching at 11:00 p.m.  I took care of his food, laundry, etc., etc., for years, and he felt it was my job - because I didn't have a "real job".  I love my kids, but taking care of 4 children is hard work.  Much harder than my current "real job" - as a middle school teacher!  So, let him have this life. I just hope it's sinking in!

hey lostway, i hope you are ok, you should go outside and scream as loud as you can. dont hold in your anger ok. you will heal , but it will take time.

cherbear

Honey, I agree with animator!  You are killing yourself with this!  Do what's right for YOU!   I think I have come so far because he lives 2 hours away and I don't have to see or hear him with her!  That would absolutely kill me!

Think about you, for a change.

Thanks guys I'm feeling better now. I know I was being dumb. I'm still here because I have this screwed up value system that make me want to help here because I want to do the right thing. I want to be away from here I need it so bad I need to heal. I will soon.

{SLAP} Feel better? K, now here's a {HUG} for ya! Your imagination is running away with you! Of course you think they are laughing about you, but I bet not! You need to go and do something to get your mind off them! When my 1st. ex and the OW were together, I drove myself crazy with those thoughts your having, it's hard not to think that way, but most likely they don't talk about or laugh about what they've done!  When you feel these thoughts coming on, go for a run, see a movie, anything to get your mind off them! You have a buddy you can call? If you let it, it will consume you!
Start a journal it helped me so much, and when I read back much of what I thought was going on, I realized it was my imagination running amuck. Take care of you, focus on something you want and need...

Don't take this the wrong way, man.  Why aren't you somewhere else?  It would be a cold day in hell when I sit there and listen to laughing like that.  I would tell you something that happened on New Years Eve that made me glad I no longer live with my STBX.  But I promised myself I wouldn't bog about her anymore.  It's a part of moving forward.  For me. 

What you are feeling is totally normal!!  I felt the same way after my ex left me and I knew he was with the OW.  I felt the same way I consumed myself with thinking about what are they doing now, why can she please him and I can't anymore, things like that!!  I had to snap myself back into reality and keep myself busy to try not to think about him and her together.  I had to do this for my own sanity and so do you.  I threw myself into my work, and into my hobbies and into my kids!!  My support group told me to sit down and write out a list of things I would like to do and haven't done in my life.  Which I did and they said to go down the list and do the things on the list to keep you busy and your mind occupied with other thoughts--good thoughts!! :)  You can't sit and obsess about what they are doing or you will go crazy and consumed by those thoughts, trust me I know!!  It's hard not to think about them, but the best revenge you can get is to live your life and be happy and that will totally piss her off.  I know it's easier said than done, but you need to try.  For your own sanity.  I'm sorry you are going thru this and I know people say that as time goes on it will get better--becuz everyone said that to me and I didn't believe them at first, but trust me now I do believe them!!  I does get better as time goes on and now I don't even think about them becuz I have come to realize that yeah he left me for her, but he didn't run away from his problems he took them with him and now he has even more problems with her - she's been married twice and has 3 kids and he has to deal with that along with her baggage too!!  It's not all happy as claims over where she is trust me--the grass isn't greener on the other side!!  They usually realize that when it's too late!! Take care and keep your chin up!!