When a woman is done.....she's done! 

I was done the day I had him served. It's over except for a bit of crying. And I haven't done that in some time. I still have my farm and I am making it the way I want to; not his way.
Take care

Congrats to you!
As my Grandma always said, in her sweet, yet stern voice: "How long you're gonna get kicked in the ass, before you turn around to see who's kickin' you?!"

I agree with you 100% about some of us women putting up with good-for-nothing relationships. We take a man back over and over, and continue a pattern that seems endless.

Then finally we get it, and the STOP sign comes out. It takes awhile, but we get it. Patience is a virtue, tolerance a gift? It's amazing what a person will put up with because they feel they have no other options.

Whether by circumstance or by ignorance. Unfortunately, I too, am guilty of the doormat syndrome. You know, "Just step all over me my husband, I'll comply to you, and things will get better!"

Alas, dignity and self preservation, will not allow a person to continue in this fashion. Eventually you get the "bitch slap" from reality, finally wake up, and start to think clearly.

I got many "slaps" before my eyes flew open! Let's just say I can see things more clearly now, with a crystal view. I've taken the blinders off, and perceive things for what they really are and not what I'd like them to be.

I applaud you and truly understand your point about, when a woman is done, she is done. I am so distant from my ex husband now, because he systematically sabotaged any possible chances of me having any compassion for his sorry ass.

No sympathy, no empathy. I am only "civil" to him because we have children. No need to repeat things of the past, every weekend when he shows up for a visit. I am done!

So I wish you luck! You are traveling down a road that you need not look back upon.
                                      Peace!

Good for you.  I am glad that you are able to get to that point.  I think I am about half way there.  I am done in many ways, yet not done in so many other ways....

Continue down your happy road of life you have definitely earned it.

My stbxh has p-o'd me off so bad over this last weekend, IM DONE WITH HIM 4-ever now!!! Not another tear shed over him ...................p e r i o d !

Congrads, it is so hard to let go and when you do it is a relief...  However, I too go back and forth, up and down and even get pulled side ways during the let go and heal process.  It makes you weak when you can't let go and those eyes, or even the sheet activity makes you weak in the knees and you forget all the bad things that have happened.  Even though my STBX walked out and never looked back on our marriage it does make you look and feel great when you look into that rear view mirror and all you see is dust of your past instead of flames.  Great job and my your future be a bright one.

I so wish I could get there. I still hold on to the hope even after he tells me there is none.  I sat down at my computer to email him and ask him to reconsider this divorce, that I am lost without him. I don't know what to do, how to move on. There is absolutely no joy in even waking up. I feel totally abandoned by everyone. I think of looking for a place to live but why, it will only make me loner, there's no joy in finding a house when he won't be living there. It been six and a half months I thought I would be getting better but I am only getting worse, I make it to work because I can't afford to lose my job, but I spend the whole day holding back tear and take my breaks and go cry in the ladies room.  On the weekends I don't even care if I get out of bed, get dress, nothing. He plans on filing for divorce on Nov. 17, I so don't want this, but in my head I know I can't live with him because he isn't willing to work to meet me half way. I know the mistakes I made in our marriage and I am willing to chance but he won't even admit he did anything wrong. I know if I email him, one, he will either delete it without reading it or his response will make me sound like a fool or worse. Don't feel I can hold on, just nothing left in life. Oh, DK-Simoneau I wish I could get to where you are emotionally.

Awesome! I am soo happy for you and I can't wait to get where you are!