ABusyMom's Short and Simple Guide to Single Parenting 

Single parenting is rough.  Trying to be the best parent you can while coping with your own pain during divorce and helping the children deal with theirs can be nearly impossible.  Here are some short and simple tips to help you stay in the game.

1.  Be flexible.  Co-parenting means accommodating two schedules.  Keeping as much flexibility in your life as possible means less stress for you.  It also means your kids don't miss out on big events with either parents.

2.  Take care of yourself first.  I know it's hard to do.  If you don't take some "me" time, you'll become exhausted and irritable.  No one benefits from a tired and cranky parent, especially not your children. 

3.  Don't be afraid to admit you need help.  No one can take on all of life's hurdles alone.  Ask your friends and family to help you get the kids to soccer practice when you have to work late.  You'll be pleasantly surprised at how generous your loved ones will be with their time when you need a hand.

4.  Take things one day at a time.  Don't try to look to far ahead.  Deal with what you've got on your plate in the here and now, and leave long term worries for another day when you're a little less emotionally stressed.

5.  Don't try to "make up" for the other parent.  You can't be mom and dad both.   Trust me, I've tried.  Encourage your children's relationship with your ex and if it's not possible, do the best you can for your kids.  They understand more than you think they do.

6.  Don't be afraid to say no.  You have the right to stay home and have a quiet weekend.  Take advantage of that right.  You might find your kids appreciate some quiet time, too.

Be kind to yourself and know you are not alone.  Take baby steps.  And most importantly, don't sweat the small stuff.