You will love this one! 

She is playing you for a fool. Don't let her do this to you. Play her back. Return the pain to her. You'll be better if you do. Trust me.

My ex tried that for months. Stringing me along. Even after he told me to see a lawyer, he said 'we have 60 days to decide if that's what we want.' Uh, no. Once I start paperwork, I'm done. He just wanted to have his cake and eat it too. It's an insult. 'Hey I've treated you like crap, put you through hell, and now I'm going to mess with your head. Because you love me so much I'm going to exploit it.' Ugh.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Next time you'll know better.

Before she moved out my wife was like that. But I understand what it is. She doesn't hate me, she wants to be friends. So for her it was all just being friendly but to me it was a sign that maybe not all is lost. But like Hurtin' when I would express something to that effect, I'd get the same result as Hurtin' got. We can't see passed our love at the friendship being offered.

Oh wow,
My husband sends mixed messages like that too...I always fall for it...I guess for many reasons .......I just keep letting him in, even though we are going thru a divorce..it doesn't make sense...maybe it's their way of still having control.....he did this to me when we seperated back in 2002....he just wouldn't let go of me, and I just let him hang on and come in and out of my life as he pleased......

I will give him the benefit of the doubt and say its his own control issues and not evilness..lol..but I need to not be such an idiot too........

it's hard though isn't it?!?!?

I am still straightening out my own issues about this...so many sides....a part of me doesn't want to be a failure at marriage......not to be defeated.....

then a part of me feels like marriage is not for me, and I don't have faith in marriage anymore....

all these feelings and he seems to be able to manipulate and string any one of them......

now I understand why people close up and don't have feelings at all.........

Anyways, I just grabbed some coffee.....

Here's to us, getting thru this......

 

She is afraid for you that you will find someone better than her, sounds like.  LOL!!!  Sounds like she wants to have as much control over you and your emotions as possible.  Let her be there for your child but show her that you don't need her to be happy and that your life does not revolve around her.  Have fun and don't be afraid to show her.  Don't fall for her gestures though.  Don't be surprised if, once she sees you enjoying life and happy she will try to use her sexuality against you.  If she sees you falling for it again she will know she still have power over you.  Don't let her use you like that.  You deserve better!!!  : )

What a maroon!  Which personality is she going to show up with next week
She might want to be a film star?  Likes cake and eat it too.
Life is not a candy store for spoiled children.  Stick to the fact ma'am. 
Is it your fault, or is this another of her different personalities speaking
to you?  Figure this one out.

When my stbx told me that there was ow and that he wanted a life without her and not me.  He also told me that sometimes the grass is greener on the other side.  I told him if he really feels that way then climb the fucking fence.    Then a couple of days later he told me that he hopes that in the future we can get back together.  I think that is bull because why would I want to be sloppy seconds.  I told him that I have more respect for myself then to let him play around and then come back to me.  I told him there was no chance in hell we were ever getting back together.  I still feel that way at this time.  I am happier without him.  I just wish he could be happier so he would quit harrassing me.  Good luck!!

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Women are great at having their emotional-selves ready when it comes to a divorce. Sure it goes the other way from time to time, but most of the time women are so ready for a divorce and the man is not. That's why the almost always have the upper hand during the process.

I am sorry you have been manipulated emotionally.  My ex started 2 1/2 yrs befor the divorce with "We need a settlement."  I asked if he wanted a divorce.  No, just a settlement.  This went off and on for 2 1/2 yrs until my older son told him to Sh_t or get off the pot and stop jerking Mom around.  He came to me the next day with an excuse that if I did not give up real estate, we would have to divorce.  I finally said "Go do it!"  This and your situation is manipulation with emotional and verbal abuse.  There are some wonderful books that may help.  Controlling People and The Verbally Abusive Relationship.  I learned a lot with both books.  Now all I need is the degree to go with the knowledge and internship I got with my crazy ex.  Ha Ha!  Good luck!

"...future' line..." - Yes, in a slightly different variation.

My former spouse stated the following when we were 10-months into our separation and soon to be filed divorce papers: I would like to have another child with you sometime in late 2008 or early 2009 because we have such a beautiful daughter.

...And, I kindly declined the opportunity...

Hurt - I'm sorry that you are going through this - but on this aspect - she wants to come to all my sons' extracurricular activities even when it's on my parenting time

She has absolutely every right to be at any event the child is involved in, regardless of the parenting time - you can't stop or bar her from anything like that, regardless of how uncomfortable it is for you. She is the child's parent - she has the right to see him "in action".

 

You are going to look like you are unwilling to co-parent in the eyes of the judge and it is not going to reflect very well on you...at all.

Trying to keep her from the child's activities is NOT a smart move on your part.

Yes, My ex told his paralegal that he intended to come back and live with me and help on the farm. That's after he got thru chasing all the women he wants to chase all over the world. Right now he is chasing women in south east Texas.

I take that statement to mean when he is no longer sexually interested in women he will come "home" so I can take care of him. Hell will freeze over before I ever let him come back. No way.

To me it sounds like she is using you, and that line was to pull you in. Sorry if it hurts your feelings, that was just what I got out of it. Hope you can find a way around it and not let her do you that way.

I'm not divorce yet, but separated for 3 months. My wife told me the same words about a month ago, but it didn't work on me because she add a few additional words to it. "and when we get remarried you can my me a new car". I don't think so. She is money hungry so I'm letting her starve. I don't know why they say this line but it's unreal that they think it's going to really work. I'm not remarrying the same women. I nightmare is enough.